Potty Training Anxiety Is Real


A couple months ago, my webinar partner Elsa and I presented a webinar to a group of parents.  The parents learned a lot from our presentation and question and answer session. Following the webinar, some of the parents continued to communicate with us by email.  The overwhelming question and struggle with the parents that continued to communicate with us was Potty Training Anxiety.

The level of urgency to figure out how to deal with Potty Training Anxiety created a need for us to do some research and dig more deeply and add some information to our webinar to include this topic. We have some helpful information to share regarding this topic. 

It is true that going potty brings up some scary thoughts for toddlers.   Many of these tykes are afraid of the toilet, the bathroom, going poop and using public bathrooms.   Addressing the fear surrounding the toilet, the bathroom, going poop and using public bathrooms seem to be the four main areas that potty training anxiety seems to pop up.


Fear of the toilet because when it is flushed it makes a lot of noise.  The questions about what all is going to go down when that toilet has flushed come to mind!  Some children fear the toilet being flushed when they are still sitting up there.  They may be afraid that they could be sucked down the toilet with everything else!  Not only is the noise of the flushing toilet scary some children are afraid because they are sitting so high up with nothing around them!  Dangling feet can also make a child feel out of control. Believe it or not, some children have fears of snakes, fish, bugs and other creatures coming up out of the toilet and visiting them in this vulnerable position.   A child’s imagination can see that happening right before their eyes and seem very real.


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The bathroom can be a scary place for a child.  The things in the bathroom are like no other room in the house.  Not all that cozy either.  The bathroom can be dark and can only add to the scariness levels.  Think about adding a light to the bathroom that will always be on.  Add a basket of books and favorite comforting toys in a basket to add some comfort and coziness.  Some people like to make an iPad or kindle available so that their child might play some games and distract them from their fears.  Maybe a cute poster or picture that your child loves. Think about what equipment you might add to the toilet so that your child can feel safe and secure getting up to the toilet,  getting their feet secure and hanging on tightly.  A few small steps, with a place to set your feet and a handle to hang on to while you are on the throne will add safety and comfort. Being lonely or away from mom and dad can be a scary thing for a child, particularly if they are trying something new.  Do your best to be there for your little one when first learning to use the bathroom.  Parents are busy, but if you set the time aside for potty training and make it a priority, everything else needs to be set aside during this time period. You might need some support from another adult during this time to take care of things you would normally be taking care of so you can be there for your child when nature calls.


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Pooping can be anxiety provoking for some children, particularly if they have struggled with constipation and going poop hurts. If it hurt to poop once or twice, they may decide they never want to poop again. Be sure your child is not constipated and be sure they have a diet with fiber or provide them fiber supplements.  Plenty of fluids will help as well.  Keep track if they are pooping daily as that will be important to know so that they are not impacted.  See your doctor if diet, fluids, and supplements are not enough. Also, some children do not like to get dirty and going poop can create a mess.  Although pooping in the toilet sure beats going in your diaper or pants as far as a mess is concerned.  Be sure to talk them thru how you and your child will work together to clean up after a poop.


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Going to the bathroom in public bathrooms can be really tough on some children. Some will choose to hold whatever wants to come out until they get home.  This can be extremely uncomfortable for your child as well as cutting scheduled outings short.   Your child may need you to go into the stall with them and help them and comfort them.  Bringing familiar items with and taking your time so they do not feel rushed.  A book, toy or game to distract could help a lot.  This is a tough one as I have left many fun events as we couldn’t get past the anxiety of public bathrooms.  This happened to me with boys, who didn’t want to go to the woman’s bathroom! Thank goodness for family bathrooms that are available in most places today. 

Finally, for some children going poop can be a sensory issue. These children happily go poop in the diaper, knowing they are pooping and knowing when they are done. The diaper provides them a sense of security and familiarity.  When first potty training children with sensory issues and they are learning to poop in the potty chair, you may want to leave a diaper on, but a modified diaper with a hole cut in the back or rear so that poop can fall through.  Gradually cut away the diaper until there is little left.  Your child will learn that pooping in the potty chair is ok in time.

Talk to your child about these fears and find out what they are thinking.  Address their fears before their fears grow bigger and bigger.  Find solutions that address their fears and talk with them about what can be done so they feel better. Be creative!



The Potty Fairy will be adding some Potty Fairy custom dolls to our line of products. There is a doll for girls, called Blossom and a doll for boys called Bud.  The dolls can help provide comfort and companionship during potty training to help relieve anxiety. Your child can carry the doll with them or have the doll set in the bathroom or living space to always be there during potty training.  The potty fairies can leave surprise rewards for your child when they are potty training successful so your child will never feel alone.  The fairies leave fresh undies during the night and your child can sleep with their doll and get support 24 hours a day.

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Our guest blogger from “UnderBearz” is another product that we believe could be very helpful to children potty training and would help alleviate any potty training anxiety.

Potty Training Fun


Who doesn’t love to look forward to something fun? A long-needed vacation; a relaxing day off work; getting lost in a good book; spending time with the ones we love; really, the list is endless. Equally long is the list of things we dread.  At the top of the list for many parents is the task of potty training.  It seems especially daunting for those parents who are “first-timers.”  “I’m looking forward to starting potty training.” said no one ever!  Until that is, the idea of UnderBearz was born.

UnderBearz’ focus is on “turning potty time into playtime.”  That is what we do!  Studies on play have shown children learn by imagining and doing.   Play shapes our brains, develops skill, and gives stability to our emotions.  In an article entitled “Reflections on Pretend Play, Imagination, and Child Development,” Dorothy Singer, an expert in the field of children’s play points out that “Research has shown that children can begin playing imaginatively as early as 18 months…through play, a child begins to experience the world around him.  Pretend play is consistently associated with smiling, laughing and satisfaction in children.” So, at UnderBearz, we set out to create a toy, that capitalizes on the benefits of play and helps turn the sometimes-unpleasant task of potty training into a time of imaginative play that parent and child can engage in and look forward to. 

The UnderBearz kit includes: an adorable bear with underwear; a toy potty; an “I Can” laminated potty chart, where you can chart the progress and reward your child for all of the simple tasks your child can do as it relates to potty training; a sheet of UnderBearz stickers; a Pottyology how to Brochure, with tips on how to best use the kit; and a roll of specialty UnderBearz toilet paper just for your child and your child’s UnderBearz.  UnderBearz can be found on ETSY and on Amazon. So, go add potty time with UnderBearz to your list of the fun cause at UnderBearz we love…  “turning potty time into playtime.”  Happy Potty Training!

Potty Training Equipment and Inventions


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Wow! There is a tremendous amount of equipment out there to consider when you decide to potty train your child!  As you know The Potty Fairy believes that children and their parents are unique individuals and because of that fact, a wide selection of options is a bonus!  It important to device a potty training plan that you are comfortable with.  You may want to do some homework or research regarding potty training equipment before diving into potty training so that you can make an informed decision on what your child needs and what you are comfortable using before potty training begins.

So what equipment is out there to think about? 

  1. Potty Chairs that sit on the floor- many styles and versions to meet every need.
  2. Potty Seats for the toilet- a wide variety of seats with different features.
  3. Ladders to the toilet seat so that your child can safely navigate their way to the top!
  4. Stools for your child to rest their feet on so their feet don’t dangle, especially with pooping!
  5. Special urinals for boys so they can learn to potty standing up.
  6. Portable urinals again for boys on the go.
  7. Portable potty chairs that are lightweight and fold-up.
  8. Portable potty liners for easy disposal of deposits.
  9. Seat liners for sitting on public potty chairs.
  10. Potty chairs that entertain.
  11. Special wipes.
  12. Decorative items to drop in the toilet water to make going potty more fun.
  13. Lights on the toilet seat to light up your potty chair at night.

The Choices Can Be Overwhelming!

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The thing is there really is equipment that is worth the research.  I was so surprised to find the portable urinal for boys!  How helpful would that be?  And a portable potty chair for girls!  These portable pieces of potty equipment could be so helpful in our busy world.  Plus, you find that they are not that expensive.

So the gist of this post is to take a look at what equipment is available and consider what would be helpful in your lifestyle and your mode of operation.  Get yourself equipped before starting the potty training process to help make the process as smooth and efficient as possible for your unique needs.  As an added note, it helps to include your child when selected particular equipment as it helps with their “buy-in” and enhances their confidence about the whole thing.

To add to the equipment theme this month, we are highlighting a new potty training invention that has recently been made available that makes sitting on the potty chair a lot more fun for your child!

Read on:

“The Wild RIDE from a “Good Laugh” to the BEST #PottyTraining Stool for Kids & Parents!”  which was submitted to The Potty Fairy by Fred and Elna. Read on!


Sometimes the best ideas come from a good laugh! This is exactly how the Potty Rider® potty training stool, the brain-child of Fred & Elna Mulford, began.  Originally an idea for a gag gift for a motorcycle lover, the Potty Rider® prototype instantly gave Fred & Elna the idea of the perfect tool for parents potty training their children.  The Potty Rider’s design evolved from the PVC original to a beautiful Baltic Birch plywood that is sturdy, safe and long lasting potty stool.

image002When Potty Rider® launched in June of 2017, the Mulford’s expected a measure of success because there was no other product like it on the market.  But they were unprepared for the overwhelming, positive response from parents (over 13M views of the Potty Rider® introduction YouTube Video); and the tidal wave of orders.  The success of the patented Potty Rider® comes from the commitment to quality that Fred & Elna have established in its’ design.  Every Potty Rider is handcrafted here in the U.S. and absolutely focused on the safety.  The built-in step platform is outfitted with non-slip treads, cool grip handlebars, and a sturdy stool platform – all of which helps your child feel safe, supported & encourages them to use the “Big Potty”.  And the small footprint design is light & easy to store in the shower or bathtub when not in use.

But as important as the safety features are, what makes Potty Rider such an excellent potty training (s)tool 😊 is the child-friendly designs (motorcycles, ponies & more, Oh My!) and the cool accessories (sound boxes, iPad holder, etc.) that turn potty training from trauma to FUN!  For parents & children (including children with special needs); Potty Rider® is the perfect #PottyTraining solution; ensuring No Tears – No Fears – Just Cheers!  Learn more about Potty Rider:  www.PottyRider.com; or follow on Twitter @potty_rider & Facebook @pottyrider.

Thank you for reading our blog post this month.  Next month we will be looking at Potty Training Anxiety and have a special product to share that just might help.

As always, The Potty Fairy enhances all methods of potty training.  We are excited to share that The Potty Fairy book is being expanded to include ALL ebook versions and the book will be available in hardcover and softcover this spring. The books will be available on our website as well as Amazon and Barnes and Noble.  The hope is that they will all be ready just in time for Easter!  To go along with our new books, we are also adding a customized doll where you can choose the gender and the skin tone. More information to come.


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The Potty Fairy Potty Training Webinar


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The Potty Fairy is happy to offer a Potty Training Webinar to help parents learn about potty training and to help each parent design a personal potty training plan for their child.

We believe every child is different and unique in a variety of ways and this calls for an individualized potty training approach that fits your child and their parent.  You design the potty training program that you want to provide for your child during the webinar.

Our webinar presentation guides a parent through a number of steps so that a unique potty training plan can be designed by you.  We dive into these following topics:

  • Parent and Child Readiness
  • Environment and Equipment
  • Basic Potty Training
  • A Review of Methods
  • Differentiating the Methods for your Child
  • Potty Training Multiples
  • Rewards/Praise and Celebrations

The webinar overview takes about 60 minutes. During the webinar,  information is presented to the parents and notes are jotted down.  By the end of the presentation, you will have an idea of how you want to proceed and what you need to do to put your plan into action. The presentation concludes with a 30 minute Q and A so that you can clarify any questions you may have regarding your plan. The total time of webinar is 90 minutes or an hour and a half.

A portion of the webinar presentation is reserved to briefly discuss the use of The Potty Fairy in your potty training plan.  Many people use charts and rewards during potty training.  These strategies can turn into power struggles and bribes.  The Potty Fairy, who is similar to “Elf on the Shelf” or ” The Tooth Fairy”, delivers underwear and rewards when they catch your child doing well using the potty chair and using underwear.  You can be excited and happy along with your child when they receive their rewards and it takes you off the “hook” of being the one handing out the rewards or stickers based on performance or non-performance.  You are now your child’s cheerleader and support. 

The webinar takes place in the comfort of your home.  Registrants simple login to the webinar and we share some time together.   We are flexible regarding day and time of the webinar and can fit your requirements for your group.

 Our webinars have a maximum enrollment of 100 and a minimum enrollment of 25.  the cost per person is a little more for small groups and lower for larger groups. We can discuss your unique needs via email.  We provide follow-up consultation to all interested participants. In addition, we give each webinar participant a “The Potty Fairy” e-book and mp3 music download for your device.

If you are interested in organizing a Potty Training Webinar for a group of parents or for your organization, please complete the contact form and we will email you back.

We are happy to provide bios of presenters for your planned event so that parents have information regarding the presenters of the webinar.

If you are interested, please go to The Potty Fairy website, Webinar page for the contact form to complete and send in.

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“I was feeling at a loss.  Now I have a plan.”

“Thank you for keeping the conversation going.”

“I wish I had the Potty Fairy a long time ago!”


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Ask The Potty Fairy: Top Ten 2017 Blog Posts and Upcoming 2018 Blog Topics

It’s our pleasure to share the 2018 New Year Potty Training Blog Topic List for the upcoming year!  We are also happy to share the Top Ten Blog Posts of 2017 based on the number of readers per blog post.


Top Ten 2017 Blog Posts

  1.  Diapers and Mother Earth
  2.  Potty Training Around The World
  3.  Potty Training for Preschool
  4.  Brightside Method
  5.  Three Day Method
  6.  Poop, There It Is
  7.  Potty Training In Nature
  8.  Dad Can Do It
  9.  Child-Led Method
  10.  Fast Track Method

Note: Out of 32 Blog Posts

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We are excited to unveil our 2018 list! 

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The 2018 list was developed over the course of this past year experiences which include; travels, webinar events, processing customer comments, reading emails, and shared discussions.  Parents with children have come up with the topics that they want to know more about.  We will learn more about potty training practices around the globe due to the high interest in the article regarding “Potty Training Around the World”, as well as our own curiosity. Let’s make 2018 the best year yet. Happy New Year!


2018 Ask The Potty Fairy Blog Topics:

  1. Potty Fairy Potty Training Webinar
  2. Unique Inventions for Potty Training
  3. Night-time Potty Training
  4. The History of Potty Training
  5. Potty Training Regression
  6. Potty Training thru Play
  7. Potty Training Anxiety
  8. Montessori Potty Training
  9. The Importance of a Positive Potty Training Experiences
  10. Potty Training Dolls
  11. Potty Training in France
  12. Potty Training in the Caribbean

We will post a monthly blog post in 2018 and add these posts to our posts.  Over the course of the upcoming year we will develop a list of topics for 2019 when we receive your feedback and comments! We love hearing about your ideas.

We appreciate your interest as we dive deeper into potty training and hope you enjoy the information. Happy New Year.

The Potty Fairy storybook enhances and enriches all potty training methods. The current versions are available in iPad ebook format and Kindle ebook format.

Our website has free downloads to bring the story to life for your child.


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Potty Training and the Holidays



Potty Training Holiday Tips

You may not be actually potty training during the holidays, but you might be in that 3- month period after potty training when extra support is needed to keep your little one on track with using the potty chair.

Here are some helpful reminders with the holiday season upon us:

Organize the right supplies be ready to go when heading out.  You may want some disposable diapers available should you be traveling, or if you are attending holiday events in places that are not familiar to you and your child.  Think about packing a “toddler bag” with extra underwear, outfits, and disposable diapers.


Bathrooms can be an issue when not at home.  I found this particularly true with going poop for my children.  They were going to save it for home!  Well, if you are going to be gone during the holidays for a few days that could be a problem.  Talk to your child before leaving home to give them advance warning regarding using a different bathroom when away from home.  For some children, bringing you potty chair from home can help.  Or even a smaller add-on toilet seat that is familiar to them.   Having one of these items available will be worthwhile when visiting relatives or friends for a few days.  Shopping or theater events are yet another issue.  Public bathrooms can really bring on the anxiety.  I found family bathrooms helpful for a little-added privacy. Bringing that small add-on seat for a public bathroom toilet can also help.  If it is all too much for your child, you may find yourself resorting to disposable pull-ups for a brief time.


Holiday apparel is so adorable and fun.  Before you decide what to put on your child for the holidays, think about your child managing the clothing during potty time.  Lacy, fluffy dresses maybe a bit too much for your newly potty trained daughter to deal with on the potty chair.  Fancy outfits for boys with belts and suspenders could take time to undo and create an accident ready to happen.  If your child is newly potty trained select an outfit that will be easy for your child to deal with this year.  Easy on and easy off.  Fancy outfits may need to wait for another year.



All of our diets change during the holidays.  We all eat a little more and drink a little more during socializing with others.  More to eat and drink could lead to tummy aches and could also create a situation where your child may need to visit the potty chair more often. Many parents will limit the number of liquids their child drinks before naps and bedtime.  Try to manage how much your child is eating and drinking. Be aware of the extra sugar in the food. Consider bringing some familiar foods for your child to eat and drink so that there is some regularity during this time.

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When you are home, there is a typical schedule that you follow with your child. When the holidays arrive with more travel and added events and parties, your schedule is challenging to follow. It may be impossible to follow your child’s typical schedule. Realizing your child schedule is not being followed, as usual, try and include extra chances to rest and go to the bathroom.  Be sensitive to your child’s needs and try not to get stressed out. Anticipating these things ahead of time and being prepared is helpful and could save the day. 


 There will be lots of distractions and it will be easy to lose track of time.  Try and stay as consistent as possible with ALL the distractions that will be occurring all around you.  Timers can help you keep on track with going to the bathroom.  There are a variety of AP’s available for your phone so that you can set a timer to remind you of potty time, snacks and naps. This could be helpful for staying on schedule with distractions.


Knowing that the holidays can be stressful at home or on the road, try and keep your cool and remain patient.  Realizing that the holidays are stressful for you, recognize that holidays are also stressful for your child.  Your child may regress during this time.  Regression is common during transitional times,  and holiday schedules can sure make life busy and in constant transition.  Be patient with yourself and be patient with your child.  Your child may go regress with potty training during this time, even during the best of circumstances. Don’t panic.  Just know when the holidays are over, you can get back on track. You may need a short period of time revisiting potty training with rewards, reminders, and praise when the holidays are over.  If you realize this is a possibility and you have a plan in place, you will likely ride the tide a little easier. Bringing a few items that help to calm your child as these items will be helpful for calming your child when not at home too.  Special toys, blankets, and books can help ease anxiety and help in a tense situation. 


Being prepared for the holidays when it comes to potty training can help you enjoy the holidays and be ready for what might come up. Being prepared and aware is half of the battle. Compassion for your child and yourself will help ease the anxiety.  Enjoy the holidays and realize the holidays will pass too.  Your regular schedule will return and your child will get back on track with potty training too.



The New Year will bring so much to celebrate and enjoy with your child.  Why some of your experiences could help you figure out some New Year’s Resolutions!  Keep your sense of humor. Cheers!

Copyright 11/2017

Visit The Potty Fairy for more potty training information and ideas this holiday season.


Friend of The Potty Fairy/Smartypotty



It’s Thanksgiving time and The Potty Fairy is thankful for all the parents who have listened to webinars, visited and picked up tips on her blog, or connected thru social media.  Our friends in Potty Training is growing all the time.  So at this time of year where we reflect on what we are thankful for we are sharing a blog post from one of our moms who are expecting a baby soon,  potty training her son and creating a business on Amazon.   Please enjoy our guest blogger, Odelia Castillo, who shares her adventure in potty training and her potty chair business.

Adventures of Potty training at its finest! 

 So I hear it’s harder to potty train boys? You don’t say! Since I have nothing to compare it too as this is my first time ever having to do this, let’s just say I believe it.
Although I’m a bit confused why it would be harder since a boys’ anatomy seems easier to deal with. Any-who, our son Kingston is 2 years and 10 months old and is going to be a big brother any day now. So as you can imagine getting him potty trained is a huge deal in our household right now since NO ONE wants to change two diapers all day, no one!
We started potty training him by just having him sit on a potty before bath every night until we said you’re not going in the tub until you go pee pee! So that is how he started getting familiar with a smaller, floor sitting potty.
Then more recently, we started leaving him at home bottomless. Literally, the minute he got home from school we had to take off his bottoms and get him to roam around the house with his cute little tush out, and it worked!! He feels like there’s nothing there so he runs to the potty as soon as he feels it coming which is great! BUT where do we go from here??? Once we put on his underwear there’s a 50/50 chance he will go in them and on the floor. Then when he goes to school he still wears a diaper and they do take him to the toilet to pee but not poop. We have also used the reward system and got through about 15 hot wheels so far. For every time he poops on the potty he gets one.
So now we are 5 days away from our baby boys due date and our toddler is still back and forth on his potty training progress, man this is taking longer than I thought. But we have to stay consistent that is the key, I guess!
About me-
Through my toddler raising and potty training journey, I became a SAHM and I myself created a brand of, yup, you guessed it- Potties! The brand is called “Smarty Potty” (TM pending) and they are awesome colorful BPA free potties for the floor (for beginner and smaller babies) and toilet (for toilet sitting and transitioning or trained kiddos) they are available on Amazon prime now please check the link to see them for yourself! Trust me they help me a lot I’m not just selling them we use them every day in all 3 of our bathrooms!
Thanks for reading and good luck with all potty training parents! We all need a drink, Cheers! 
The Potty Fairy is providing Potty Training Webinar Events.  We are offering a Potty Training Webinar Monday, November 27 from 6:30-8:00 pm.  The Potty Training presentation runs 70-75 minutes which is followed by a 15-20 minute question and discussion period.  All participants will receive a free The Potty Fairy book with their registration.  Click on the Potty Training Webinar Form and sign-up. It is easy.
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The Potty Fairy is working on a new website page which will feature The Potty Fairy Favorite Products with links to the products that are not sold on The Potty Fairy website at this time. We hope you enjoy our new page.  It is a work in progress.

Potty Training Multiples

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When we first started the AskThePottyFairy.blog, we wondered how many potty training topics there would be to write about and share on our blog.  We are amazed at the number of topics associated with potty training and look forward to another year of providing blog posts as there is always more to learn.  The questions and topics keep rolling in! Consider following the AskThePottyFairy.blog so that you are alerted when new blogs are posted!

Coming up in November, The Potty Fairy has been asked to provide a potty training session for a group of parents in Toronto, Canada (TROMBA)   The Potty Fairy will be offering a webinar conference for the Toronto Parents of Multiple Births Association. Registrations are coming in and we are expecting a large group who will login in to participate in this session! In preparation for this specific webinar training, we are offering a blog post this month focusing on “Potty Training Multiples”. 

Note: If you are interested in offering a webinar training on potty training for your association, please send us an email and we would be happy to accommodate your specific interests and ideas.

Potty Training Multiples

So the big questions for parents of multiples are how do I potty train twins, triplets or more?  How do I differentiate typical training for one child to accommodate more than one child?  What if one of the children I am training is succeeding and the other is not? How do I keep both on track and feeling positive?  How do I organize for potty training and accommodate for more than one?

Parents of twins, triplets or more typically feel very overwhelmed when it comes to potty training their children. I would say that parents of one are also overwhelmed, but potentially double that for parents of twins and triplets.  Parents of multiple children are capable of this task as everything they do requires more organization and the ability to handle more chaos. So with a bit more preparation, support, and solid understanding, parents of multiples will conquer potty training! ( Kinda superhuman parents)

Parents of multiple children, please read on…

First, as with all parents potty training your children, you will want to make sure you are ready for the task and schedule potty training at a time with the least amount of distraction and stress. You will want to schedule potty training when you get another adult to commit to the training session alongside of you. Two people are needed when training multiple children. Prepare for success.

Secondly, you will want to be sure your children are developmentally ready for potty training. Typically, 2 1/2 to 3 years old. As with everything, this is an average, and some children potty train earlier and some later. With multiples, I would consider observing when both or all children demonstrate readiness for better odds for success and streamlining the process for you and your family.

Third, review the Methods of Potty Training on the AskThePottyFairy.blog site.  There are a variety of methods and approaches. You may want to look elsewhere for a review of methods as well. Read, reflect, consider and decide which method makes the best sense for you to use.  Just make a decision about your “game plan” and go from there.  You will add some unique differentiation for your children but have a base plan.

Next, prepare your environment and when getting your equipment purchase more than one potty chair.  Some people suggest letting your children have their own special potty chair, and some say no. You will have to make a decision on that one! (Personally, I would let them have their own and let them make it uniquely theirs.) Have multiple potty chairs and perhaps in more than one location.  Don’t forget to make accommodations for your home such as covering furniture, removing rugs and such.

Download a free Top Twelve Potty Training Tips sheet on the website and hang on the refrigerator for a reminder and reference. Add these “Potty Training Multiples Tips”:

DON’T compare

DON’T pressure

DO be patient

Do individualize for differences

Unique for training multiples, you will want to individualize your method for learning styles, motivational rewards and gender differences of your twins, or triplets. Think about how you would like to differentiate for these differences for your multiple children.  Learning styles and motivational rewards can be different for boys and girls along with anatomy differences.  Accommodate for these differences.  The method you proceed with will have unique differences for each of your children.

There is always the notion that the twins could be a positive influence on each other and be using the potty chair.  Keep it fun, positive and individualized you will be sure to be successful.  It has been said that twins can motivate each other in the process.

Unique “Potty Training Multiples” Issues:

What to do if one twin is making progress and the other is not?  To hold one back because the other is not making progress does not make sense.  I would move forward with the twin that is making progress and let them potty in the potty chair.  I would diaper up the uninterested child and not make a big deal of it.  Typically, the second or third child will catch-up pretty quickly.

DON’T feel you have to potty train your twins at the same time. Some twins, especially boy/girl sets, learn to use the toilet as much as a year apart — and that’s okay. All kids are different (even if yours look a lot alike). Still, lots of parents decide to tandem toilet train as soon as one seems ready so as not to prolong the process. And if things go well, the less eager twin will show more interest when she sees her sib using a potty.

How to manage Reward and praise as to not compare? Try to manage each of the children individually and not comparatively. Look for positives in both. Minimize accidents and setbacks.

DON’T use charts when you potty train twins. Charts show an obvious comparison between your children. One or two stickers are a great reward — with any luck, both kids will be getting their share — but putting them on a chart can be a constant visual reminder to one twin that she’s “behind” the other. Let them use their stickers in a different way so comparisons are lessened or eliminated.

DON’T use one twin’s potty success to encourage the other. The twin who’s taking his time with potty training will be able to figure out the progress of his sibling without you pointing it out. Instead of being motivating, comparisons might intensify feelings of jealousy or competition. Learning quickly doesn’t have to be the “better” way to learn to use the potty chair.  Praising your children for different attributes can make both of them feel successful and good about themselves.

I share this post with all due respect for parents of twins and triplets or more.  I look forward to the conversation we will have at the end of the webinar and realize there is always more to consider and learn.  I am hoping to learn together with you that evening. After the webinar and our discussion, I am visualizing adding more to this particular post as I learn from you. Please feel free to leave comments on the blog too and we can start the conversation early!

And “The Potty Fairy” Enhances All Methods of Potty Training, Even for Multiples!!!


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Top Twelve Potty Training Tips

IMG_5769Quite some time ago, The Potty Fairy was asked to put together some Potty Training Tips for parents who were potty training their children.  We have pondered the question for a while and would like to share what we have concluded.  Here are The Potty Fairy’s “Top Twelve Potty Training Tips”, to help you organize for potty training!

Note: Each of the twelve tips are linked to another blog post for additional information and ideas

1. Are You Ready?

First, you need to feel ready to potty train your child. You are pivotal to your child’s success. Be ready! You will need to set aside some precious time to stay at home and focus on the potty training process.  You will want to select a period of time that you will not be interrupted or be stressed.  Set aside a time that fits well with your family and work.   You will also want to consider the potty training method that you select.  Some of the methods work best in the spring or summer and some are more suitable in the fall and winter.  Think about any time goals you have as perhaps your child will be heading to preschool.  Give yourself the flexibility to add additional time to the process if you need to.  You want to feel relaxed and be able to make this a fun experience for you and your child. Perhaps it will even be magical.

2. Is Your Child Ready?

Next, your child will need to be developmentally ready for the potty training process. Learning to use the potty chair is a big developmental step for your child and you want it to go well. Readiness is extremely important for potty training to be successful. Attempting to potty train before your child is developmentally ready will not work out well and you and your child will be left feeling frustrated. Some of the signs of readiness are:

  • Your child is independent and proud of accomplishments.
  • Your child has dry periods.
  • Your child does not like a dirty diaper.
  • Your child notices others using the toilet.
  • Your child can tell you when wetting their diaper
  • When your child is pooping in the diaper is obvious
  • Your child is interested in trying to use the toilet

These are some important signs of a child being ready for potty training. You may notice other signs unique to your child.

3. Get Your House Ready! 

What does ” get your house ready” mean?  It might mean rolling up rugs that you do not want to get wet with urine during the training process.  It might mean strategically placing portable potty chairs around the house. You might want to consider putting together a basket of books in the bathroom or near potty chairs.  Downloading books and games on your i-pad. I have even heard of parents placing small TV’s in the bathroom to entertain their child while they work on doing a poo.  Some parents like to cover chairs and sofas to protect against potential accidents.  Take an inventory of your home and create an environment that is ready for potty training.  You may also want to check out the AskThePottyFairy.blog posts on “Potty Training in Nature” and “Backyard Potty Training”.  In these two articles, you prepare an environment for potty training outside!

4. Do You Have The Right Equipment?

 Equipment…what equipment?  You will most likely want to go to the store with your child to select a potty chair.  There are many to pick from.  Perhaps you want a seat for your regular toilet, or you might want a potty chair low to the ground.  There are even little boy urinals that you can purchase.   Consider all the options and have your child help you select what best suits your family.  Stickers are fun for your child to decorate their new chair and make it their own.  Perhaps they get a sticker for successfully using the potty chair.  Some parents like to use a potty training chart as well that stickers can be placed on.  A small step stool for reaching the sink for washing hands might also prove helpful.  There are FREE download charts and enhancement products on The Potty Fairy website. 

5. Oversize Teeshirt for a Bare Bottom to Underwear

If you choose a bare bottom approach to potty training you will want to purchase some oversize teeshirts.  Teeshirts that will cover your child’s bare bottom.  This might be a time to purchase character teeshirts that your child loves or purchase plain teeshirts that your child can decorate and personalize. The beauty of starting with a bare bottom is that a child will not need to struggle with pulling down underwear to go potty.  It makes going potty quick and easy.  Later you will add some underwear.  Seems as though the current suggestion is to purchase underwear, not training pants.   Selecting underwear that has a character that your child loves is very beneficial and can motivate your child to wear them and keep them dry.  If leaving underwear at night from the potty fairy, there are Potty Fairy stickers available for purchase that you can place on the underwear so that your child knows the undies are delivered by The Potty Fairy herself.

6. Pick a Method and Differentiate between a Boy and a Girl

Review the main methods of potty training.  These can be found on the AskThePottyFairy.blog   and on the internet. Find the method that you are most comfortable with and that you believe will work best for your child and your family.  You will also want to review how you can make the method fit a girl or a boy best. There are slight variations in potty training due to gender differences.   The Potty Fairy enhances and enriches all methods of potty training and can make the process magical for your child.  It has been shared that The Potty Fairy helps motivate a child to potty train.  Add in washing your hands to any method!

7. Rewards and Praise “What Motivates Your Child?”

Finding out what motivates your child is gold.  Make potty training all about them and their transition from being a baby to a big kid.  Celebrate their successes and “catch them being dry and successful”.  Some people like to make charts with stars or stickers to track success and help motivate their child towards a bigger reward.  Some people like to leave random prizes when their child is doing well.  Stay clear of bribing, which is different than a reward. An example of a bribe would be…” if you go pee on the potty, I will give you a toy.” That is a bribe.  A reward is letting your child do well, and sharing praise and a token reward when doing well.  Eventually, you want your child to go to the bathroom because they want to and need to not because they are being bribed.  Sometimes bribes can turn into a pattern of a child expecting something if they are going to perform.  Difficult pattern to break.

8. Diet Changes

It makes sense that by providing more fluids to drink that your child will need to pee more and provides an opportunity to practice using the potty chair.  Parents have also said providing their child salty foods and fluids also help the cause.  Providing foods that help a child poop also makes sense.  Giving a child time to process what you feed them is necessary. In our busy schedules, we sometimes have a hard time finding time for a child to sit on a potty chair.  During the potty training period of time supply lots of fluids and time to process.

9. How often on the Potty Chair?

At first, you may want to have your child sit on the potty chair every 10 minutes! You don’t want to miss that opportunity to succeed!  Keep track of how that works and gradually add more time between potty chair sitting times.  Observe how your child does and as you add time to notice how long your child can stay dry.  Remember to get them to a potty chair depending on how long you have expanded the time. This is particularly important as you introduce them to visits to friends, play dates, parks, and public bathrooms.  Bathroom visit reminders will be necessary for a while.

10. Books, TV, and Games

Potty training books are important when potty training your child.  There are so many wonderful books on the market that you can select for your child.  Also, consider e-books for this purpose as an i-pad or kindle is easier to keep clean in the bathroom versus a book.  Public television has some wonderful programs regarding potty training specifically Daniel Tiger is often times praised by parents.  Games on devices can also help a child when sitting on the potty chair and there are many games developed for pre-school readiness.  Books, TV programs and devices are all good tools just censor what you want to have your children see.

11. Accidents

Accidents will happen, even when your child is potty trained.  Children are so busy and can forget that they need to visit the bathroom until it is too late.  If your child has an accident, simply clean them up and move on.  Best not to make a big ordeal over an accident. Focus on the positive and deal with problems and move on.

12. Celebrate Success

Celebrations are important, especially with big transitions and when we are successful at something. This is true of potty training. Your child transitioning from being a baby to being a child.  I have witnessed children in a daycare setting who are in a mixed group of children, some potty trained and some still in diapers.  Over and over again, I have observed the potty trained child wanting to move up a group from the diapered children to children who are potty trained.  It is a big step for children and worth being earmarked.   We have a free crown template on The Potty Fairy website. This template can be downloaded, printed, cut out and decorated.   Have your child create a crown so that they can show others they are a Potty Fairy Prince and/or Potty Fairy Princess now.  Bake a cake with your child and invite some friends over. Celebrate your child’s success! Do something nice for yourself too. It is a shared success story.

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Potty Training is Child’s Play


Parents want to provide the best possible opportunities for their children.  The use of the internet and technology has provided parents a vehicle to research a wide range of topics, including potty training.  We are happy you have found yourself here at The Potty Fairy blog: AskThePottyFairy.blog You will find articles regarding many potty training topics and potty training information. 


Why and how The Potty Fairy enhances any potty training method that you select is the topic of discussion of this blog article.  The underlying reason many parents have found success in potty training their child by using The Potty Fairy is because  The Potty Fairy bring imaginative play to the process.  Why is  this important and why is play important for your child? Please read on and learn more about this particular idea. 



Educational research tells us  that children learn best in an environment which allows them to explore, discover, and play.  Play is closely tied to the development of a child’s cognitive, socio-emotional, and physical behavior and development.  Play is a child’s work and it is how a child learns.  Integrating play into the potty training process can only enhance a child’s potty training experience.  The use of The Potty Fairy in the potty training process integrates play into the process and will help your child be successful. It amazes me that more has not been done on the topic of play and potty training.  Educational research has been clear about the importance of play and the importance of good potty training experience!

Learning through play is a term used in education and psychology to describe how a child can learn to make sense of the world around them.  Children develop social skills and cognitive skills thru play.  It has been noted that children can mature emotionally, and gain the self-confidence required to engage in new experiences and environments thru play.  Potty training requires a child to use social and cognitive skills. It also requires a child to mature and develop self-confidence to be able to successful use the potty chair. Play can help these areas. 

2553FB66-A572-435A-9308-DE277262FD9AImaginative play is essential in the learning process and can advance cognitive development. Through imaginary games and storytelling children  can learn new skills. The Potty Fairy is all about imaginative play.  The child dreams of fairies that leave “catch them being dry” prizes.  The Potty Fairy  leaves underwear on the bed at night to wear the next day.  The child imagines The Potty Fairy watching their potty training process and how they are doing. The Potty Fairy and her helpers are there to support and encourage the child.  A child’s parent can embellish on The Potty Fairy involvement as much as they like, thru stickers, notes, and underwear.  Parents use their imaginations to make the potty training process as playful and imaginative as they like! It can be a whole lot of fun!


Using play and imagination to support a child’s learning, supports and encourages a child’s healthy development. Potty training is an important developmental process for a child. A negative potty training experience is concerning and should be avoided. Creating a positive process embedded in play and imagination creates a positive and healthy learning process.



Learning primarily happens around four major learning modalities.  These modalities are:

Visual learning

Auditory learning

Read/write learning

Kinesthetic learning or movement

Involvement in all the areas of learning is a comprehensive way to embed learning.  The Potty Fairy products provide learning opportunities in all areas.3AD1DC33-34E5-424A-9768-9669D8B9BF21


The Potty Fairy provides enrichment products  in all 4 learning modalities.  The Potty Fairy e-books, stickers, underwear, CD/MP3 download  provides learning in all learning modalities.  Free downloads on The Potty Fairy website will also enhance your child’s learning in all modalities. Fill out the contact form and let us know that you want to be alerted to new materials be added!


The Potty Fairy Reward Chart encourages learning all the major learning modalities.  The chart has different activities for the child to do and perform and there are activities in all areas of learning. Stickers can be used to mark the activities performed and completed.  Activities include imaginary games and storytelling which will help children adapt learning habits and improve their vocabulary.



The Potty Fairy not only helps a child to learn to use the potty chair but will also encourage cognitive development, creative thinking and imaginative play.  Essential preschool skills are worked on and developed. You will see your child gain self-confidence thru imaginative play.  The Reward Chart activities will help your child gain important skills that they can use in other areas of their young lives thru this experience.  The activities and learning that happen with potty training can be transferred to learning throughout a child’s young life. This is just the beginning of exciting preschool years.  


We encourage to ask questions, to make comments and dialogue with us! 

If you are preparing to potty train your child, select a method that you feel comfortable with and purchase The Potty Fairy products and download the FREE products to enhance your child’s potty training experience with imaginative play and essential learning opportunities. Make your child’s potty training experience positive and the best possible experience available. You will be glad you did!  The Potty Fairy

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Potty Training for Preschool


Elementary pupils sitting on the floor in a classroom

Your child is starting preschool. Hopefully your child is potty trained by now, but it might be that your child might not be quite ready yet. It’s natural, and not unusual, to feel a sense of panic if your child isn’t completely potty trained yet. Give yourself plenty of time to potty train your child prior to your child attending preschool. Feeling rushed is not a good way to start! Figure out a schedule to train your child before that first day of preschool. Plan for success. 

Most preschools expect that children attending the preschool will be potty trained. 70 percent of parents believe that children should be potty trained prior to going to preschool. Before selecting a preschool, ask about the potty training policy. If your child is not ready for potty training and you desire a preschool setting for your child look around as not all preschools require potty trained students. 

If being potty trained is required for the preschool that you want your child to attend, carefully consider if your child is developmentally ready to be potty trained. If your child is able to keep her diaper dry for an hour, then she’s likely ready to begin training. Another sign that your child is ready to potty train is a desire to wear underwear.  In addition, your child may be bothered by wet or soiled diapers. A desire to use the potty chair is extremely helpful!

Fully potty trained means that the child knows when he or she has to use the bathroom and does not need any assistance in the bathroom. However, preschool staff will be prepared for the occasional accident and won’t expect children to ask every time they need the toilet. Most preschools have a policy of offering gentle reminders. They will encourage children to use the toilet after meals or half an hour after having a drink. Children tend to learn by example and encourage each other. If your child consistently sees friends use a potty or toilet, most likely your child will want to join in.

cropped-amaija-photo-4-3-16-6-52-pmIf you are potty training your child at home prior to attending preschool, please refer to some of the AskThePottyFairy.blog articles that provide information on a variety of methods, gender differences and how to incorporate The Potty Fairy into your plan. The Potty Fairy enhances all methods of potty training!

Most kids will be ready between 2 and 4  — so at 3 your child could go either way. If your child is not showing signs of readiness, potty training is likely to be frustrating. If that’s the case, or if he just isn’t getting the hang of it or is feeling upset, back off. Wait at least a couple of weeks before you try again. But don’t lose hope. It’s not uncommon for a child who wasn’t using the toilet in one month, may be potty trained the following month. You just never know what’ll do the trick. The Potty Fairy visiting is a great motivator!

If your child goes to a daycare prior to attending preschool, many daycares provide potty training assistance. It is important to work together towards the goal of potty training your child. Find out what strategies your daycare is using and provide a transition to home that supports the same strategies.

Common Daycare Potty Training Approach:

Persuading a toddler to first sit on the potty. Some children are scared, and others are just not interested.  Often times daycare providers will have children who are already trained come into the bathroom and demonstrate going to the bathroom for the child that is learning.  This can be a powerful motivator, especially if they are friends.  After the friend shows how they use the bathroom, the untrained child will give it a try. Consistency is important.

Daycares also teach a child how to pull down their pants and pull them back up when they have gone to the bathroom.  They learn to flush the toilet and wash their hands.  The daycare providers work at making the child as independent as possible and help them take control of the process. This helps children feel less fearful about using the bathroom.

Potty training books are important at daycares. The Potty Fairy has been used in the daycare setting  successfully. Because The Potty Fairy is an e-book and a kindle or i-pad device is used to read it, provides a sanitary situation as the device can be disinfected more easily than a regular book.

If potty training at home, or supporting the daycares strategies, try this at home: Teach your child the steps of going to the bathroom, 1. Pulling pants down before using the potty chair, 2. Pulling pants up when done using the bathroom. 3. Flushing the toilet. 4. Washing your hands.  If your child is resistant, ask an older sibling or cousin or friend if they can show the potty training child how to use the potty chair.

Types of potty chairs

Typically daycares use the toilets that are installed in the school.  They make adjustments for the child necessary to use the toilet. Daycares rarely use toilet chair inserts or small potty chairs because they are hard to keep clean.

At home you can bring in some nurturing additions to enhance the potty training process by adding a toilet seat insert or a small potty chair. These can be individualized with stickers and decorated by your child to help make it their own.

Accidents will happen

In most daycares, a child’s accident is not a big deal. A quick cleanup is completed and the child is changed into clean clothes and they move on.

Daycare providers see occasional accidents as part of the potty training process.

At home try not to make a big deal of accidents either. Clean your child up and do not punish them or get upset when an accident occurs.  You can take more individual time to talk to your child regarding how you might make things better for them.

Positive Reward and Praise

Daycares often keep a sticker chart in the bathroom. They often times make it a part of the child’s routine when using the bathroom by letting them place the sticker on the chart. 

At home your praise, a hug and sharing with other family members goes a long way.  Giving your child rewards or stickers is best when you “catch them being dry”. 


Daycares typically have a potty schedule and this usually includes a routine of 4 times per day.  Set your potty schedule at home according to the one at your child’s daycare. 

What to wear

Daycares recommend that potty training children go straight to underwear and do not recommend training diapers or pull-ups.

At home buy your child special underwear.  Have The Potty Fairy deliver them at night so that your child finds them in the morning.  Purchase underwear with your child’s favorite character on them.  Your child will not want to wet them!

Looking out for poop

Daycare staff know that a child learns how to poop after they learn to pee in the potty chair.  As well, often times children will wait until they get home to go poop.  Most day care staff wait and watch for a child to show signs of needing to go poop and encourage them to go on the potty chair. If they do go poop, lots of praise is given and celebration.

Because most children wait to go poop when they get home, try and figure out what your child’s natural pooping routine is.  When is within the timeframe offer them a book or an i-pad/kindle to read books or play games so that they can relax and sit on the potty chair for a while.  Make sure their legs don’t dangle and give them a stool or bench to place their feet during the process. Celebrate and provide lots of praise when a child poops.  Your child will show signs of being ready to poop in the toilet when they require privacy when they poop in their diaper.

The next AskThePottyFairy.blog post will focus on using the Potty at Preschool.

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