Done with College and Mom to Three daughters
35 short years ago these three little girls were my babies and I was there mom. Life sure delivers a surprising journey. At my young age, I thought I was in charge of the future.
We started out in Minnesota. All three of my daughters arrived in this world in Minnesota but in three different towns, St. Cloud, Brainerd and Bemidji. Close in age, they were my life and I knew no greater love than what I felt for them. Moving to Wisconsin when my youngest was 2 years old, when a tragic accident spun my life out of control and what I thought my life would be, changed forever. My youngest daughter had a near fatal head injury and no one thought she would survive. She did. No one thought she would be able to read or learn. She did. We moved to Maine.
Maine was a place of healing. The ocean’s waves and smoothing energy healed me. A few years passed. I became a single parent. We made friends and became a part of a community. I felt a belonging there as Maine felt grounding, a bit in the past, and this was comforting. I had a group of women friends and we bonded. My friends had little ones and potty training was a part of our conversations. A couple of my friends were struggling with the process and were very frustrated.
During this time and one night in 1988, I went to bed, and I had a dream, like no other dream entered into my sleep. The dream was so bright, so brilliant, so loving, so happy and about fairies who delivered underwear to small children. The dream was so amazing it knocked me off balance. The morning following the dream, I did not get dressed all day. I wrote. I drew. I talked. Later, I made little books for my friends and got some cool underwear. We delivered the book and underwear packages to my friends. Truth be told, their children potty trained that weekend. No kidding. The sharing of packages and the story continued and little ones would “magically” buy into the idea and would potty train. The creative energy of Maine brought life to the fairy in the form of art, music, poetry and story. There was a ton of joy in the process.
I had a friend in Maine, Greg Smaha, who was a professional musician. He helped me write The Potty Fairy song. He had his vocal music degree from Berkeley School of Music. He released this album and toured in Europe. He was a “funk” musician so The Potty Fairy has a funky sound!
I began teaching in Maine and went back to school to get a Master’s Degree in Education. Then a recession hit the state and people were boarding up their homes and leaving. Cuts to education were massive and I turned my eyes back to Minnesota. It was time to go home. Be with my family. We packed up our belongings and heading back to Minnesota.
A while after being in Minnesota, we bought a home, I got a teaching job, my daughters started school. Time was moving so quickly and there was no looking back. My daughters were strong and resilient. As long as we had each other we would make it. Money was always short, but we learned to enjoy life with what we had. Having each other was more important to having material things this lesson in my life was invaluable. Before I knew it my daughters were done with school and were heading to college. How could it be?
I married, a man I met teaching. He reminded me so of my father, a science teacher and basketball coach. I loved the dad he was to his daughter. We have been married 20 years now and instead of a child we have a sweet puppy named Indy. ( Middle name Anna) Life is good.
The grandchildren started coming and I love each and every one of them in a unique and special way that matches their unique and special children. I have to ask myself, “Am I really a Grandma now? ” The Potty Fairy returned to our lives to help all 7 of the grandchildren potty train. My daughters easily brought the Potty Fairy to their children lives when it was time for potty training. The Potty Fairy entered in and would leave at times but always came when there when we needed her. All 7 of my grandchildren know and love the Potty Fairy.
After 25 years in working in education, I ended my career working in an Educational Research Center where I did research and grant writing, I helped implement new education programs, supported teachers, worked with parents and students. I had a successful and good career in education. When I look back it was a whirlwind and there is a bit of sadness that I never got around to sharing The Potty Fairy with others beyond the small sharing in Maine and Minnesota.
Five years ago, I retired early due to medical issues. Heart disease slowed me down. The stress of my life had taken a toll. After a few years of medical help and healing, I came to the realization that it was time to bring this gift of The Potty Fairy out to others. There is no better time than now as we may not have tomorrow.
I turned 60 years old this past New Year’s Eve. My oh, my, time flies. My life journey was so different than I could ever imagine. I am at a place where helping others makes me the happiest. Time with my family is the most important thing of all. I know that we need to pay attention to the things that life brings us and celebrate that. I am celebrating turning 60 by attempting to publish The Potty Fairy story in the form of a board book.
The Potty Fairy Enhances All Methods of Potty Training.