Child Led Potty Training Enhanced with The Potty Fairy


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Starting potty training when your child is ready can happen pretty easily.  When children are ready to potty train, power struggles tend to drop off.  No one wins in a power struggle.  Fighting with your child will not be helpful with potty training.

The idea of “potty training” your child is not actually what happens. Rather, you set-up conditions so that your child can learn. Your goal is to make the potty training process as easy and effortless as possible.  It is a process of learning that happens over time.


Here is an easy step by step process for this process:

1. Begin by reading books about going potty with your child.The story I would like to recommend is “The Potty Fairy” . Potty training dolls can also be very helpful. Most kids love them.

2. Remember that most of what kids learn is through our modeling. Start talking about what you’re doing in the bathroom. Let your child watch. Boys will benefit by watching other boys or their father use the toilet. Often times children have female caretakers and lack a male role model.  Dads involvement will make a big difference for boys.  The Potty Fairy has two helpers that deliver rewards and underwear.  Let Bud provide support for the boys and let Blossom provide support the girls for additional role-modeling supports.

3. Kids love to copy other kids. Slightly older cousins or friends who are willing to use the bathroom in front of your toddler can be invaluable in modeling. For boys, you might make a game of it by putting a small bulls-eye in the toilet for them to aim at. The older cousin or friend can talk about The Potty Fairy and the helper Bud  or helper Blossom who visited them when they were trained!

4. I strongly recommend having a potty in each bathroom of the house. That way, kids can practice sitting whenever they want, including while they keep you company in the bathroom. Some like to get a movable potty chair that can be moved from room to room when a child is first learning to potty.

5. Before actually starting to use the potty chair, just have your child to sit, fully clothed, on his potty.  Give them a chance to see what it is like without having to perform Make sitting on the toilet fun before thinking about peeing in it. For instance, be sure there is a stash of books next to the potty or a Kindle or iPad loaded with e-books, like “The Potty Fairy” ebook. Download The Potty Fairy CD/mp3 and play the story, song, and poem. Sing potty songs or give special cheers each time she gets on and off the potty. Make the experience fun and positive. Never force this on a child.

6. After your child is used to sitting on the potty clothed, ask them regularly if they want to sit on it naked. Sometimes he will say yes, and sometimes No. Don’t make a big deal of it. Your goal is just for him to get completely comfortable. Read “The Potty Fairy” book and other books while sitting on the potty chair. Toddlers are busy. You have to make the potty a place they love is if you want them to spend enough time there to let anything come out.

7. Once she’s totally used to sitting on her potty begin dumping the contents of her diaper into the potty each time you change her diaper. Explain that every day her body is making poop and pee, and they belong in the potty. Tell her that whenever she is ready, she will begin peeing and pooping right in the potty. After a while, let her help you empty the potty into the toilet and be the one to flush it. Wave goodbye to the poop. Reward your child for staying dry and clean. Have the Potty Fairies leave random treats and rewards around the house.

8. When he does pee or poop in the potty be sure to celebrate! But be sure you’re celebrating other things too. The celebration is for the child and all the things they do during the day including potty training. Remember, your child should be in control of the process. No pressure. Only focusing on potty training could feel like pressure. 

9. Don’t make the move into underwear until your child asks.  When ready to wear underwear, write a note to The Potty Fairy to leave a pair of undies at night for the next day when your child feels ready to start wearing underwear. Let it be their idea!

10. Notice when she gives signs that she is about to poop, i.e.becoming quiet, withdrawing to squat in private. Give her language for what’s happening:”Are you ready to poop? Do you want to do it in the bathroom?”Pooping takes a bit more time and concentration. Give them the extra time and privacy to poop. Sometimes an i-pad with activities helps them take the time to sit and wait for the body to do what it needs to do.

11. Be open if she requests a toilet seat. Many toddlers squat to poop and prefer a potty that allows them to assume a similar position. Typically children start with a small separate potty chair. Sometimes children are afraid of falling into the big toilet or are afraid of the flush.For going poop a small stool or bench for their feet is helpful if sitting on a regular toilet with a seat. It is difficult to poop with legs and feet dangling.

12. If you’re buying a seat to go on the potty or a separate potty chair, find one they love. Let them shop with you to find the special new potty chair.

13. Create a schedule for going to the bathroom.  Observe your child’s pattern and develop a schedule to keep them consistent. This will become something that the child will eventually do on their own without a set schedule. 

14.Reward your child for staying dry! Let the potty fairies leave random rewards for staying dry. Provide support and praise for using the potty chair. Help make sitting on the potty chair a pleasant experience and fun.

15. Expect accidents and don’t make a big deal.

17. Be enthusiastic but never pushy. Talk about what is happening as your child learns to use the potty chair.

18. If your child poops in her pull-up or pants help your child put it on the potty chair as that is where it belongs.

19. You set the stage for potty training and your child has to do the work.  Make sure your child is ready. Support with encouragement, praise and have regular visits from the Potty Fairy with rewards.

20. This is a big developmental step for your child. Make it a positive one where your child’s self-esteem and self-confidence grows.  When your child  has mastered the potty chair, have a celebration. Decorate a crown that your child decorates and make it a Potty Fairy Prince or Princess crown. A FREE crown template is available at

Have a wonderful experience potty training your little one! Let the Potty Fairy help!

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The Three Day Method of Potty Training with The Potty Fairy

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Signs that Your Child is Ready for Potty Training: 

  • A child is independent and proud of accomplishments.
  • A child has dry periods.
  • A child does not like a dirty diaper.
  • A child notices others using the toilet.
  • A child can tell you when wetting their diaper
  • Pooping is obvious!
  • A child is interested in trying to use the toilet


Preparation for three-day method of potty training:

  • Get oversized tee shirts for your child to wear.
  • Get a potty chair that you can move around the house.
  • Let the Potty Fairies know that you are embarking on potty training.
  • Get The Potty Fairy book and CD.
  • Get relevant rewards that the Potty Fairies can leave.
  • Get awesome undies that can be left on your child’s bed at night to put on in the morning. Potty Fairy stickers are available to place on underwear so your child can know they are from the Potty Fairy.
  • Be ready to spend 3 intense days with your child at home. You will be together.

OK, here’s how to potty train your kid in three days:

  • When your child wakes up in the morning, change his soggy diaper and bid farewell. Have your kid throw the diaper out and say “bye-bye.”
  • Change your kid into one of the oversized T-shirts you got and explain there is no diaper to catch the pee-pee or poop, so he has to put it in the potty.
  • Give your kid breakfast and an extra drink. Afterward, lead your little one to the potty. It should be a successful trip after all those liquids.
  • Go on with the day, but remember, no leaving the house for three days. Play, read, color and watch cartoons.
  • Have a constant sippy cup of water at your kid’s reach. Just like crate-training a puppy, walk your child to the potty every 15 minutes, all day long for three days.
  • Cut off all liquids and snacks after dinner.
  • Complete one final potty mission before bed.
  • Wake your kid up halfway through the night to pee. (Yes, set an alarm.)
  • Repeat for the next two days.
  • Don’t get upset about accidents. They’re not a big deal.

Days Two and Three:

  • Repeat what you did on day one.
  • Don’t get upset about accidents. They’re not a big deal.
  • Don’t react to accidents.
  • Provide praise and rewards for staying dry.
  • Leave surprises for staying dry by the potty fairies throughout the day.
  • Make the day magical and fun.

After 3 days of successful potty training, plan a celebration:

  • Have a celebration!  It will help your child stay focused and remain “trained”.
  • Decorate a Potty Fairy Princess or Princess Crown to wear at the celebration party. (download a free crown template at
  • Have your child help prepare the celebration.
  • Make cupcakes or cookies. Kids love to bake.
  • Make some decorations.
  • Have your child tell others at the celebration (family and close friends what they have accomplished!  A public announcement that they will now use underwear.
  • Let them show others their “big girl or boy” underwear.
  • This is a time that you and your child can feel proud of what you have accomplished. A time to celebrate your child as they are no longer a baby with diapers.

         Best wishes on your potty training journey!  Remember The Potty Fairy !

The Potty Fairy book is available in English, Spanish and French. All versions can be purchased on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. English versions and eBooks are available on our website at 25% of.
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Brightside Potty Training Method


The Brightside Potty Training Method Can Teach Your Child to Use a Potty In Just 3 Days

Undoubtedly, all parents take delight in watching their children grow at all stages of their development. Some of these stages are more complicated than others, including when our children make the transition from diapers to using a potty.

This is often a long and difficult road, which is why the people at Bright Side have found a great technique that works 100% of the time.

The “Fellom” technique involves having your child go naked from the waist down when at home, and wearing loose pants with nothing underneath when in public.

However, it’s also recommended that your child still wears diapers at night.

You will need to do the following to apply this method:

  • Set out several potties. Ideally, you should place one in each room of your home.
  • Always have diapers and several pairs of pants available in case of accidents.
  • If you live in a place where it’s often cold, make sure to turn up the heating and put socks on your child’s feet during this time.

On the first day:

  • Have your child go naked from the waist down for the whole day. Keep an eye on him/her. When they need to go, take them to the nearest potty.
  • Allow your child to consume salty snacks or foods with a high water content, and make sure they drink lots of fluids so that they have to pee often.
  • When you or your partner have to use the bathroom, take your child with you. Demonstrate to them all the different steps that adults do. Children learn things very quickly by example.
  • Celebrate with your little one every time they manage to use the potty correctly. Once they’ve managed this 10-12 times, children begin to be able to use it independently.
  • If your child doesn’t manage to use the potty, do not scold them or behave in any way that could make them feel ashamed. Instead, simply say to them, “The pee/poop goes in the potty.”
  • Before naps and bedtime, tell your child that it is time to use the potty. Avoid asking them if they want to go. Put a diaper on them just before falling asleep to avoid minor accidents.

On the second day stick to the method used on the first day.

  • On the second day, you should also take them out of the house for an hour in the afternoon. Wait for your child to pee on the potty, and then go out straight after. This helps them to learn to go to the toilet voluntarily.
  • When you leave the house, have your child wear loose pants with nothing underneath. Do not wear diapers or normal underwear. Your goal is to go out and get back to the house without having an accident and without having to use the potty when they are outside.
  • Stay close to your house. Simply take a walk around the neighborhood. Take a portable potty with you just in case.

On the third day:

  • Stick to the instructions you followed on the first day, but now you should also take your child out of the house twice: an hour in the morning and an hour in the afternoon. Each time, invite your child to use the potty before you go out.
  • Again, when you go out, your child should wear loose pants with nothing underneath. Take the portable potty and a change of clothes just in case things do not go well.

What do I do if my child isn’t potty trained in 3 days?

If you don’t get good results, wait approximately 6 to 8 weeks to try again. Remember that this technique requires patience, giving a lot of support, and time.


Remember that The Potty Fairy Enhances All Methods of Potty Training.

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