Dad Can Do It! (Dads and Potty Training)

Child Dad White Sheet Laugh LayLet’s take a moment to consider dads role in potty training children. Although, most of the time moms are the primary caregivers to small children in the home and daycares are typically staffed with female caregivers, we need to make room for dads in this process.

On average, boys take a bit longer to potty train, and one has to question if it is because boys are primarily having females teach them how to use the potty chair?  Dads can play an important role in potty training particularly for boys so that they can demonstrate how this all works!

Besides this obvious reason that a male role model for boys in potty training is important, dads have other natural assets that they can bring to the potty training process that can help either gender child be successful using the potty chair.

Educational research has informed us that children whose dads are involved with their academics will have more academic success in general.  Although learning to potty train is not necessarily academic, it is a very important developmental step for young children. I would venture to say that it can be quite academic for a child.  The potty training process could be more academic by sharing books about potty training. Science could be added in, and Dads would talk about the process of going to the bathroom and why we need to eliminate fluid.  How we drink water that cleans our insides and then the used water needs to be eliminated.  Make it a bit like a science lesson!  Share with them that when you drink a lot of water that you need to pee.  Keep it simple and keep it interesting. Kids are sponges. 

Children with involved Dads will also tend to be more emotionally secure, confident in new situations and eager to explore new surroundings.  Learning to use the potty chair can be scary for some children and fear of the potty chair and the entire process can overwhelm a child.  There will be times your child will need to use a potty chair that is not at your home!  If dads tend to naturally provide an energy and attitude that promotes emotional security, confidence, and eagerness to try new things, it seems obvious that their involvement in potty training is so important to help ease a child’s fears! Share these attributes with your child and you will help in so many ways. These positive attitudes will be carried over to other aspects of their lives, too. 

Moms and Dads typically have unique and special roles in a child’s life.  A father tends to encourage competition, independence, and achievement. Dads tend to be a bit more “matter of fact”. While mothers tend to highlight equity, security, and collaboration.  Both roles bring important aspects to a child’s life and upbringing.  Recognize your unique and special roles and bring these to the potty training process for your child.

Let’s take a look at how a dad could bring his unique aspects to potty training:


The Sports Camp Method certainly comes to mind here. ( See post on this method)  If Dad is interested in getting really getting involved in potty training this may be the method to try with your child.  Be creative and develop some fun games and competitions to the potty training process.  Possibly time how fast your child can get to the bathroom when needing to go!  Count to see how many seconds it takes to get to the bathroom. Your child will love it.  Keep track of how many successes in a day and provide an award.  Throw cheerios in the potty chair for boys to try and hit when they go to the bathroom.  Get creative and have fun!


Signs that a child is ready to potty train psychologically is the ability to be independent.  They need to be ready to be independent with the potty.  Dad’s desire to nurture independence may be a natural alignment to encourage the use of the potty chair.  Of course, the child needs to be developmentally ready to be independent, and when ready, dads encouragement can be a bonus.  Possibly dad can have a conversation about how wonderful it will be when your child doesn’t need to depend on diapers anymore and can use the potty chair on their own. 


Depending on your child and how you want to approach potty training, there would be different ways that you can celebrate your child’s achievement with the potty training.  A success chart with stickers could be used and your child can reflect at the end of the day with a success chart with her dad who may not be there during the day.  Dad will want to comment or catch their child doing well and compliment them on their achievement.   A celebration with both mom and dad when a child is potty trained is certainly fun and rewarding for your child.

Matter of fact:

Another important approach to add to the potty training regiment and for dads to contribute is to discuss body function in potty training. Dads are “matter of fact” and can readily share this information with their child. Dads are usually more comfortable having children in the bathroom with them when they’re doing their business. Dads are just more matter-of-fact about it. It’s the best thing for kids to be in the bathroom with the dad, hearing poop stories and potty jokes, making it just a normal part of a conversation

In addition:

Dads love to be playful and dads encourage taking risks but dads also have the need to provide protection and discipline. A dad can bring a playful attitude and approach to potty training that also encourages a child to take the risk to go potty in the potty chair.  Dads natural playful, fun-loving approach will add so much to the training process. Making potty training a fun, family event that is something to celebrate can help make it not a chore, but a fun event for everyone.  Moms and dads can be a tag team both bringing something special to the process.  Children gain more from their parents in everyday involvement than in big trips or events. Children want and need their dad every day as a child’s everyday things are BIG in the eyes of a child.

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