Potty Training Regression

 

Potty trainingAs a young mom, expecting a baby and having a 2-year-old at home, I was anxious to potty train my eldest daughter before my new baby came home.  We potty trained together when my daughter was 23 months, almost 2 years old.  She seemed ready and everything went smoothly until I brought home the new baby and when my 2-year-old became a big sister to a new baby sister.  It seemed almost instantly she was having accidents and my response at the time was to put her back into diapers.  At the time I was so busy with the new baby I was challenged to also give attention to my daughter who was regressing in her potty training. 

 

Cute Happy toddler sitting on potty outdoorIt was hard for me to understand why my daughter had regressed and what had happened. She seemed to be well on her way to successfully using the potty chair! Why did she suddenly reverse direction? I felt like a failure but learned that all our efforts were not a failure, but that I needed to understand why regression happened and get to the bottom of the problem and get back on track. Once things settled in with the new baby and we were able to get a reasonable schedule again, my eldest daughter returned to being potty trained. Although it did take a little effort and focus, we did not start back to the very beginning of potty training which is what I feared.

 

girl with new babyI learned that there is not usually one reason why kids regress when it comes to potty training. Often times, during times of transition that may cause some stress at home, like welcoming a new sibling or starting a new school, regression can occur and a potty trained child returns to needing diapers.   When this happens, you need to address the problem that caused the regression to be able to move beyond the setback. Chances are, once the transition takes place and things settle down, your child will master potty training again and be back into underwear. Patience during this time will be critical in getting thru the bumps and moving forward again. I found this to be true and that my daughter actually enjoyed the attention to get back into underwear, using the potty chair and the benefits of being the “older” sister.

If in time things do not resume to normal, you may want to check in with your child’s doctor as medical issues can also cause regression. Sometimes difficulty with pooping can cause a child to avoid using the potty chair altogether.  Accessing if this can be an issue is important and be sure to offer plenty of water and a fiber-rich diet that promotes easy pooping.

boy on potty riderIf your child is expressing fear of using the toilet, play games, read books and provide aids to make using the toilet more fun.  The Potty Fairy Potty Rider, available on our website.  has been so helpful in alleviating fears about the toilet. Children who have expressed fear of falling into the toilet feel secure on the Potty Fairy Potty Rider.  The Potty Fairy book and enrichment products can also be helpful in bringing imaginative fun to the process with books, music and other enrichment products.  Bringing imaginative fun and adventure to potty training motivates children to use the potty chair.  The little guy in the picture was fearful of the toilet but with Bolt the horse to keep him secure he is all smiles. 

 

Getting back on track with potty training will require some consistent reminders to use the potty chair. Make a commitment to schedule your child’s visit to the potty chair as a part of your routine. Your child should use the toilet at least every two hours to get them back on track. To help with the transition from regression to using the potty chair again begin to give gentle reminders and encouragement to use the potty chair. Often time accidents happen because a child is busy in an activity and they do not want to stop to go and use the bathroom. 

step stoolsExplain to your child they are a big boy or girl and that they need to use the bathroom rather than use a diaper.  Remind them every hour or two and walk them to the bathroom before meals, before bedtime and before leaving the home.  In between times when needed. Have them use the bathroom right away in the morning, before m

Your response to your child when they use the potty chair successfully or have an accident can have a strong impact on their progress. You will want to give lots of positive attention to success and calm attention to accidents. If an accident occurs, quickly and quietly assist your child to clean-up and do not make a big deal.  Make big deals about success!

 

Hockey Stick or BudIncentives to stay dry are helpful. It is worth your while to brainstorm rewards that will truly be a reward for your child. The Potty Fairies love leaving incentives or rewards for your child and this helps keep the rewards, rewards and not bribes. Give rewards for staying dry not using the potty chair. After a few successful days, provide a special treat to an ice cream store or toy store with just you. A special treat with their parent all to themselves.  Praise can be a huge reward too that they are your special big boy or girl, not a baby that needs diapers can be the best reward.

 

 

If you can, keep your child in underwear, even if they are in a period of regression.  You want your child to feel discomfort when they have an accident. You don’t want revert to diapers so that your child regresses back into diapers when they have been successful at wearing underwear. Keep them moving forward as an independent potty user! Best wishes. 

 

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The Potty Training Consultant recently wrote a blog post called “Potty Training Products I Love”, which is a lovely post about her 6 favorite potty training products. “The Potty Fairy” book was included in these favorite potty training products!  Please check out this blog post and see the other products recommended by Potty Training Consultant!

 

She shares that “working with many different families with children of all ages and abilities, I am always on the lookout for products to make the potty training process easier and more fun. I wanted to share with you what I feel are the best potty training products on the market right now. Get one, or get them all for the ultimate potty training experience!”

One of her favorite products is our “The Potty Fairy” book!

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She also shares: “The Potty Fairy is a brand new potty training book that brings a fun new approach to learning how to use the potty. It features the Potty Fairy and her helpers, Bud and Blossom, who visit children during their potty training process bringing rewards and encouragement. I love that this book is a different concept than what we’ve seen in potty training books in the past and will really speak to your child’s imagination.”

 

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Different Approaches for Different Folks

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One of the beliefs we have at The Potty Fairy is that “one size, fits all” does NOT work for potty training.  We believe that children are unique and families are unique which calls for a unique potty training plan.   Another word used for a unique approach to learning is called “differentiation”.  Differentiation means that the approach to learning is different or individualized for each child, so that individual needs are met and the learning environment is specific and targeted.

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Differentiated potty training could be thought of being like baking a cake.  We all might decide to bake a cake but does that mean we all bake the same flavor?  Do we all back the same shape? Do we all put on the same kind of frosting?  The cake itself could be a symbol of potty training. We are all going to potty train.  The flavor of the cake could be associated with the method we might choose to potty train.  The shape of the cake might be the individualized plan we add to the method for potty training our child based on our child and our families lifestyle.  The frosting on the cake could be thought of like the rewards, motivators, and ways we celebrate our child’s success.  Make sense?

 

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The Potty Fairy products we offer are enrichment and enhancement products or the “frosting” or decorations on the cake.  The Potty Fairy offers books, dolls, tee shirts, underwear, stickers, crowns and The Potty Fairy Potty Rider.  We are planning to add a few more fun treats too! We bring in the imaginative play world that children love to learn in thru our book, song, fun clothing, and toys.  

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The Potty Fairy also shares this blog and we have posted 35 plus posts that target potty training topics to help you decide what your unique potty training plan will be. Our webinar potty training has been popular for larger groups of people who want to learn together. During the webinar, parents are presented lots of information and together we develop individualized plans. After our presentation, we have an open discussion and Q/A time.  Our webinar presentations are followed by email conversations for those parents who are interested in further discussion. 

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There has been a space in our outreach that has not been filled. There have been requests for individual consultation which we have not been able to provide for parents other than email correspondence.  Then we met, Allison Jandu, who is a Potty Training Consultant and specializes in Custom Potty Training Plans to fit any family’s needs!  She also has a blog. We reached out to Allison and asked her co-author the blog post this month so you could meet her.  We are so very excited to introduce you to Allison!

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As a professional consultant having worked with countless families to potty train their children, including my own two, I can tell you that there is no one-size-fits-all potty training method. Every child is different. My son, who is older, took a very casual approach to potty training. He was willing to follow direction and was eager to learn. My daughter, on the other hand, is very independent and headstrong, so I had to take an entirely different approach when potty training her. This is a perfect example of what works for one child, might not work for the next. So many factors contribute to how your child will learn including age, personality, your family’s lifestyle, and medical or developmental issues.

Not only is every child different, but every parenting style is different. Chances are you won’t always agree with every single aspect of one particular potty training plan. Then what? How do you change it to match your lifestyle? If you change one thing, will everything else still work? Getting your own individual plan avoids all of these questions and allows the potty training process to blend seamlessly into your lives with minimal disruption.

We all want the process to go as smoothly and quickly as possible, not just for our child’s sake, but for our own! This is why being prepared with a customized potty training plan is so important. When you are armed with the proper plan and STICK WITH IT, potty training is almost always a success.  It is also very important to have a strong support system in place for you during the process and for your child after the process. When you work with a consultant, you have a wealth of knowledge about potty training at your disposal for any questions or roadblocks you encounter as you go.

So, maybe you have no idea where to start. Maybe you tried potty training before without success and went back to diapers. Maybe after potty training your first child, you are dreading attempting it again. Working with a consultant and having an individualized plan going in really sets your child up for success. It also makes the process a lot easier on you – and who doesn’t want that!

Contact me today to find out how to get a custom potty training plan in the works for your child.

Allison Jandu

Potty Training Consultant

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