Potty Training Around the World

Kids around EarthAround the world, 50% of children are potty trained by 12 months.  This is not typical in the United States where we wait for the child to get much older before potty training. Typical ages in the United States are 2 and 1/2 for girls and 3 years for boys. So is potty training a child development issue or is it more of a cultural issue?  Let’s take a look.

Parents the world over share the challenge of potty training and look forward to having a clean and dry baby who goes to the potty in an appropriate manner. Different cultures, as well as different families, have diverse expectations of what an infant or a toddler should be doing at any given stage of development, and potty training is no exception.

In the United States, since the late 1950s, when the washing machine was found in most homes,  and the disposable diapers became available, potty training children were most often started later in a child’s early childhood years.  The convenience of the washing machine and disposable diapers and child psychologist, Dr. Brazelton, who changed the age of a child potty training from 12 months to 3 years, modified potty training in the United States. Since the 1950s potty training, a child later and later in childhood has grown.  Companies that make disposable diapers produce larger and larger diapers to support the idea of potty training a child later in childhood.  We are getting more and more comfortable waiting a long time before potty training U.S. children.

However, the United States also has a diverse population, who embraces several different approaches to potty training. Different methods are available and the parent decides what works best for their child and family. Although the majority of U.S. parents watch for signs of readiness and then let their toddler set the pace. Parents often use special children’s books, games, and potty chairs to encourage their child’s cooperation and progress with potty training. They may also use positive reinforcement techniques such as rewards to get results. Most children are completely potty-trained between the ages of 2 to 3 years old.

Some unique ideas from around the world regarding potty training:

Kids in China wear a onesie-style outfit with a split crotch. If a kid indicates that they need to go to the bathroom, the parents open up the slit and hold the child away from themselves and the kids go on the ground. It doesn’t seem to matter where they are or what they were doing.

In Germany, kids are potty trained by age 3 because it is a requirement for starting school. Germans emphasize cleanliness in the potty training process and boys and girls are taught to sit down on the potty as it is considered cleaner.

In the Netherlands children are potty trained between 2-3 years old in groups at daycare. There are little toilets and pots that all the kids use together, then they fill out sticker charts. Parents and daycare providers work together when the kids are ready and the process goes smoothly. Kids must be trained by age four before they start school full time.

In rural Indonesia, potty training isn’t even a word. Diapers are expensive and babies are free to urinate wherever they are standing or placed. Mothers and grandmothers just do a swift clean-up after.

In Pakistan, kids are free to run around and pee wherever they want. Moms give them a bath at night to clean them up, the children wear diapers at night when they sleep and in the morning, the diapers are taken off and the children are ready for the day. Eventually, they learn to recognize the urge and use the toilet.

In Sudan, potty training is done early. It helps that these mothers carry their babies on their backs often, so they either must figure out how to read their baby’s signals. By age 2, most kids are potty trained, except those who can afford diapers.

In Kenya and Tanzania, parents start potty training infants when they are a few weeks old. Since there is nearly always someone tending babies, they are able to immediately respond to the signs of discomfort. Babies who need to eliminate are taken outside and held over the ground in an appropriate place. By the time children in Kenya and Tanzania are 5 or 6 months old, they stay dry throughout the day and night.

In India, potty training starts when a child is about 6 months old. At frequent intervals, caregivers hold babies above the latrine and toddlers are left to walk around diaperless and only wearing a shirt.  The children are praised for remaining clean and dry. The children are usually completely potty trained by the time they are 14 months old.

In Finland and many other Northern European countries, kids are routinely held over the potty after every meal from infancy onward.  Many European countries tend to leave potty training completion until about 2 years old. The older European generation believes children should be potty trained by 6 months.

Overall, it appears that culture certainly has an impact on the potty training process around the world.  In the United States, there is more diversity in the approach and method for potty training.  There also appears to be more products available for potty training.  Multiple methods provide for differentiated approaches for parents to choose from according to the family lifestyle and a child’s personality and temperament.   Ideas from around the globe are incorporated into many of the potty training methods used by United States parents.

The Potty Fairy enhances and enriches all methods of potty training.  Including the Potty Fairy in your potty training program adds a fun and imaginative approach to any method you to choose to use. The Potty Fairy 

The Potty Fairy Book is available in French, Spanish and English.  The book can be purchased on our website. You can also find it on Amazon, Barnes and Noble and other online stores.

 

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Potty Training Boys!

img_2215Teaching a boy to use the potty chair will require lots of patience and love.  Experts have weighted in on a recommended age for potty training. Never before 2 years old.  Prime times are ages 2.5 to 3.5.  Leaning toward a more mature age for boys is desirable.

Your son will need to demonstrate a reasonable amount of motivation and interest.  Motivational aids like cool underwear and awesome potty chair equipment helps.  Sharing with him that Bud, The Potty Fairy’s helper for boys, is there to help and support will also be helpful. 

Read The Potty Fairy story to your son and point out the Bud character. Tell your little guy that Bud will deliver underwear to him at night when he is learning to use the potty chair.  The Potty Fairy website has “Potty Fairy Approved” stickers if you want to add a layer of believability that the fairies delivered the undies at night!

Having a role model is important. Children learn by seeing and doing.  Showing your son how it is done by a male role model is important.  The male role model can also encourage and support your son. This can be an older brother or Dad.  So often women are a child’s primary caregiver in the early years of a child’s life.  A man involved with the potty training process has a lot of impact.  It can be a guy things.

Your personal preference for equipment is the right way to go.  Be cautious of urine protectors for little boys as some can scratch and bother little boys. Some people like the i-potty and The Potty Fairy story can be loaded on the i-pad along with The Potty Fairy MP3 song.  The song is an awesome reminder when playing to use the potty chair. 

A potty chair that looks cool to a boy will provide some motivation for using it.   Boys typical start potty training by sitting down and as they get bigger and can stand tall enough to the toilet can use the stand up method of going to the bathroom.  This is pretty dependent on height and size and does confirm that starting potty training when the little guy is a bit older and mature as a good idea.

Boys are very, very active and get busy with the activities they enjoy.  Boys will need reminders to use the potty chair.  It is advised to have them try every 2-3 hours.  Tell them it is time to try to potty and do not ask them if they need to go.  They will easily say they do not need to go so that they can continue with their activity.  Even potty trained boys need to be told to go rather than it being an option.  Be consistent and keep at it.  There will be accidents and it will not be a perfect process.  Keep positive and encouraging for your child and yourself.

One of the benefits of being a boy is the ability to pee outside by a tree.  I have seen this be a big motivator for boys.  If there is a private area that your child could try this, and you are comfortable with it, it might be kinda fun.

Bud, The Potty Fairy’s helper, can deliver cool underwear at night when your child has a successful day.  When your child has a successful period of time, 3-7 days, have a celebration.   Download the FREE crown from The Potty Fairy site and decorate it with your child. Have him wear the crown and have a family/friend celebration.  Have some special food and praise you child in front of people he cares about.  If you have friends potty training their child, have a group celebration where caregivers and children can celebrate together. 

Make potty training a fun and exciting adventure. Something to celebrate and enjoy. The rewards of this type of frame of mind will pay off!

One of the benefits of being a boy is the ability to pee outside by a tree.  I have seen this be a big motivator for boys.  If there is a private are that your child could try this, and you are comfortable with it, it might be kinda fun.

Moral support is always good for both parents and children.  The child’s peers are important to your child, and celebrating these big developmental steps can provide a health environment for your child’s growth and self esteem.

The Potty Fairy Enhances All Methods of Potty Training.

 

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The Three Day Method of Potty Training with The Potty Fairy

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Signs that Your Child is Ready for Potty Training: 

  • A child is independent and proud of accomplishments.
  • A child has dry periods.
  • A child does not like a dirty diaper.
  • A child notices others using the toilet.
  • A child can tell you when wetting their diaper
  • Pooping is obvious!
  • A child is interested in trying to use the toilet

 

Preparation for three-day method of potty training:

  • Get oversized tee shirts for your child to wear.
  • Get a potty chair that you can move around the house.
  • Let the Potty Fairies know that you are embarking on potty training.
  • Get The Potty Fairy book and CD.
  • Get relevant rewards that the Potty Fairies can leave.
  • Get awesome undies that can be left on your child’s bed at night to put on in the morning. Potty Fairy stickers are available to place on underwear so your child can know they are from the Potty Fairy.
  • Be ready to spend 3 intense days with your child at home. You will be together.

OK, here’s how to potty train your kid in three days:

  • When your child wakes up in the morning, change his soggy diaper and bid farewell. Have your kid throw the diaper out and say “bye-bye.”
  • Change your kid into one of the oversized T-shirts you got and explain there is no diaper to catch the pee-pee or poop, so he has to put it in the potty.
  • Give your kid breakfast and an extra drink. Afterward, lead your little one to the potty. It should be a successful trip after all those liquids.
  • Go on with the day, but remember, no leaving the house for three days. Play, read, color and watch cartoons.
  • Have a constant sippy cup of water at your kid’s reach. Just like crate-training a puppy, walk your child to the potty every 15 minutes, all day long for three days.
  • Cut off all liquids and snacks after dinner.
  • Complete one final potty mission before bed.
  • Wake your kid up halfway through the night to pee. (Yes, set an alarm.)
  • Repeat for the next two days.
  • Don’t get upset about accidents. They’re not a big deal.

Days Two and Three:

  • Repeat what you did on day one.
  • Don’t get upset about accidents. They’re not a big deal.
  • Don’t react to accidents.
  • Provide praise and rewards for staying dry.
  • Leave surprises for staying dry by the potty fairies throughout the day.
  • Make the day magical and fun.

After 3 days of successful potty training, plan a celebration:

  • Have a celebration!  It will help your child stay focused and remain “trained”.
  • Decorate a Potty Fairy Princess or Princess Crown to wear at the celebration party. (download a free crown template at www.thepottyfairy.com
  • Have your child help prepare the celebration.
  • Make cupcakes or cookies. Kids love to bake.
  • Make some decorations.
  • Have your child tell others at the celebration (family and close friends what they have accomplished!  A public announcement that they will now use underwear.
  • Let them show others their “big girl or boy” underwear.
  • This is a time that you and your child can feel proud of what you have accomplished. A time to celebrate your child as they are no longer a baby with diapers.

         Best wishes on your potty training journey!  Remember The Potty Fairy !

The Potty Fairy book is available in English, Spanish and French. All versions can be purchased on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. English versions and eBooks are available on our website at 25% of.
Book- 3 languages
Copyright 2018

The Three Day Method of Potty Training with The Potty Fairy

Three babies sitting indoors holding hands

Signs that Your Child is Ready for Potty Training: 

  • A child is independent and proud of accomplishments.
  • A child has dry periods.
  • A child does not like a dirty diaper.
  • A child notices others using the toilet.
  • A child can tell you when wetting their diaper
  • Pooping is obvious!
  • A child is interested in trying to use the toilet

 

Preparation for three-day method of potty training:

  • Get oversized tee shirts for your child to wear.
  • Get a potty chair that you can move around the house.
  • Let the Potty Fairies know that you are embarking on potty training.
  • Get The Potty Fairy book and CD.
  • Get relevant rewards that the Potty Fairies can leave.
  • Get awesome undies that can be left on your child’s bed at night to put on in the morning. Potty Fairy stickers are available to place on underwear so your child can know they are from the Potty Fairy.
  • Be ready to spend 3 intense days with your child at home. You will be together.

OK, here’s how to potty train your kid in three days:

  • When your child wakes up in the morning, change his soggy diaper and bid farewell. Have your kid throw the diaper out and say “bye-bye.”
  • Change your kid into one of the oversized T-shirts you got and explain there is no diaper to catch the pee-pee or poop, so he has to put it in the potty.
  • Give your kid breakfast and an extra drink. Afterward, lead your little one to the potty. It should be a successful trip after all those liquids.
  • Go on with the day, but remember, no leaving the house for three days. Play, read, color and watch cartoons.
  • Have a constant sippy cup of water at your kid’s reach. Just like crate-training a puppy, walk your child to the potty every 15 minutes, all day long for three days.
  • Cut off all liquids and snacks after dinner.
  • Complete one final potty mission before bed.
  • Wake your kid up halfway through the night to pee. (Yes, set an alarm.)
  • Repeat for the next two days.
  • Don’t get upset about accidents. They’re not a big deal.

Days Two and Three:

  • Repeat what you did on day one.
  • Don’t get upset about accidents. They’re not a big deal.
  • Don’t react to accidents.
  • Provide praise and rewards for staying dry.
  • Leave surprises for staying dry by the potty fairies throughout the day.
  • Make the day magical and fun.

After 3 days of successful potty training, plan a celebration:

  • Have a celebration!  It will help your child stay focused and remain “trained”.
  • Decorate a Potty Fairy Princess or Princess Crown to wear at the celebration party. (download a free crown template at www.thepottyfairy.com
  • Have your child help prepare the celebration.
  • Make cupcakes or cookies. Kids love to bake.
  • Make some decorations.
  • Have your child tell others at the celebration (family and close friends what they have accomplished!  A public announcement that they will now use underwear.
  • Let them show others their “big girl or boy” underwear.
  • This is a time that you and your child can feel proud of what you have accomplished. A time to celebrate your child as they are no longer a baby with diapers.

         Best wishes on your potty training journey!  Remember The Potty Fairy !

The Potty Fairy book is available in English, Spanish and French. All versions can be purchased on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. English versions and eBooks are available on our website at 25% of.
Book- 3 languages
Copyright 2018

Potty Training a Child With Autism

 

 

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High admiration to all the moms and dads parenting children who have autism. Your love, patience, and perseverance are that of heroes.  Your children are blessed to have you as their parent.

Recently, I joined some Potty Training Groups on Facebook, so that I could read posts from parents who are working at potty training their children.  I was interested in evaluating if the AskThePottyFairy.blog had a comprehensive list of posts for parents who may be seeking information regarding potty training.  After a few months of reviewing parent posts this summer, I have concluded that our blog has a well-rounded menu of topics regarding potty training, with the exception of one topic, “Potty Training a Child Who Has Autism”. 

CalvinI found that there were many posts from parents seeking answers to questions they had about potty training a child who had autism.  In addition to my findings from reading the posts,  on a personal level, our family includes a special boy and much-loved boy, who has autism.  Although he is potty trained, I was curious about the process for him. 

Truthfully, our little guy has been a little bit of a puzzle and a mystery for me but once I realized he was not going to be the same as what I was used to with the other kids in our family and I accepted that fact, everything changed. I learned to love him for who he is and enjoy him for who he is. I truly believe there are no limits to what he will do. He is beautifully unique, and oh, so special. The love from him in return is enormous.

 

Calvin 2For our little guy and other children with autism, potty training can be a challenge for many different reasons.  I would like to share some of what I have learned:

1.  One reason is that many children who have autism have difficulty transitioning from routines. So for potty training, the routine is using a diaper or pull-up.  Moving from a diaper to using the toilet and wearing underwear is a big break in routine that requires some effort.

2.  Another reason is that children with autism have communication challenges, which can create a barrier regarding telling someone that they need to use the bathroom.

3. As with many changes and transitions, children with autism can develop anxiety about change so anxiety around using the toilet can occur.

4. Due to sensory issues, children with autism may not get the signals that they need to go to the bathroom so nonverbal cues may not be demonstrated!  They may “go without warning” or make it difficult for caregivers to get them to the bathroom on time.

5. Children with autism have the same signs of readiness as other children.  The age that these signs show-up may not be the same as other children.

 

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Thankfully, there are some strategies that can help to address these issues that children with autism can benefit when learning to use the toilet:

1. An important first step is to realize that toilet training is largely about communication and working together with your child.

2. Visual prompts are extremely helpful. Pictures of the steps when using the toilet are helpful. Use pictures and use simple and direct messages when using visual prompts.  Visual prompts with simple directions are the most effective with no discussion. Be supportive.

3. Don’t delay the underwear! Move your child into underwear as soon as possible. This step is true for all children. 

4. When an accident occurs, minimize the accident, clean up the accident and your child and move on. Have as little conversation about the accident as possible.

5. Reward your child for success, or “catch them doing good”.  Rewards can be activities, favorite snacks, or a small toy.  Keep these as rewards, not bribes. There is a difference.

Consider including a visual picture of your child receiving a reward for successfully following all the steps. Rewards should be immediate and consistent.

6. As your child progresses in using the toilet, work at a signal he can show that means he needs to use the bathroom. Maybe a visual signal he can give you that he needs to go and may need your help.

-Perhaps you would want to put a picture of a toilet on his belt loop or shirt button hole and he could point to it when he believes he needs to go to the bathroom.

-Later, your child may show ‘body motions” to demonstrate that they need to use the bathroom and will no longer need a visual picture.

7. Definitely reward your child for any effort to communicate. Make sure the rewards you give your child are truly rewarding for your child.

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8.  To help with anxiety, we would like to recommend a product called “The Potty Rider” to help your child feel more confident and less afraid about using the toilet.  This tool has helped many children with autism overcome the anxiety they feel when getting themselves up to the toilet seat.  “The Potty Rider” has sturdy steps that your child can use to get up to the toilet and handlebars to hang on to for added security.  The Potty Rider” comes in different styles including a motorcycle, a dinosaur, and horses.  The Potty Rider” helps children move from anxiety to having fun. The “Potty Fairy Potty Rider”, “Bolt ( black)  and Beauty(white) ” styles are available on our website  ww.thepottyfairy.com and other styles and testimonials can be found at pottyrider.com/

Finally, I would like to mention that there is a FREE download of a complete guide to potty training children with autism.  The link is here.  “Autism Potty Training-The Ultimate Guide” 

Remember The Potty Fairy book to add fun and creative imaginative play to your potty training process! Available in 3 languages! www.thepottyfairy.com

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Backyard Potty Training

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Are you interested in potty training your child in nature, but camping out in the woods is a bit too much?  Try camping in your own backyard and potty train your child there!

Bringing your child outdoors to nature brings them that much closer to The Potty Fairies, as they live in the fields and woods near your home!  The Potty Fairy and her helpers, Bud and Blossom, will love leaving incentives all over the yard and in the tent when your child stays dry and uses the potty chair.

The Bare Bottom method might just be the thing in the privacy of your own backyard.  Your child can wear an oversized tee shirt and have a bare bottom beneath the teeshirt for a quick and easy bathroom visit. Camping and potty training go hand and hand. Potty Training Camping is a fun way to train your child. Make it creative and fun.

Things to Think About When Camping with a Toddler

To prepare for a weekend potty training outdoors camping there are a few things to prepare for a successful weekend.  Overall, you will want to set-up a tent for sleeping and arrange your beds.  You will want to plan a menu for meals and snacks.  Think about entertainment and adventure. What will you do? For potty training, you will want to set-up an “outdoor” bathroom. 

More specifically:

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Get Toys Readily Available: Select some toys from the house that your child enjoys and put them in a container to stay outside with you during the duration of your “backyard camping trip”. Familiar toys might help your child feel more safe and secure with the new adventure. A new toy may help with the sense of a new adventure.  Some small camping toys would be fun including tents, children, and fairies! Glow-in-the-dark hula toys sure are fun for night time play.  Plan on using balance bikes or trikes. I made little art bins for each of them with their pencils, pastels, crayons.

Prepare a First Aid Kit:  Prepackaged first aid kits are cheaper than buying everything.  With backyard camping, you may just want to have a few bandaids ready and insect sting lotion. Cleansing wipes are a most and you will want a lot of those. A few containers are nice and portable one if you are taking a hike or a bike ride.

Get a Potty Chair: If you are focusing on potty training you will want to have a portable potty.  It might be fun to set-up a “magical” spot for going to the bathroom.  A sheet hung on the rope could create walls around the potty chair. Balloons, streamers, and decorations could help make going to the bathroom special and exciting. If using diapers at night, an extra large Ziploc bags are helpful to put wet diapers in until you can wash them or put them in a garbage.

Snacks are a Must: Have favorite easy to serve snacks available particularly when it gets close to making meals so that you can tend to cook outside.  Children are very busy and will burn a lot of energy when outside for long periods of time. Be sure to have healthy snacks that will keep them going.

Protect your Child: Sunburns and bug bites can happen even if you are just in your backyard!  Be sure to remember sunscreen and bug spray.  A sunburn and bugs can make a camping experience negative quickly. Choose your products carefully and be sure they are recommended for the sensitive skin of a child. 

Pack and Play or Baby Gate: A “Pack and Play” may also be helpful for times that you need to contain your child.  I have also seen some people place a baby gate all around the tent so that their child stays safe and can play.  If you bring a gate to create a play area, an old rug or mat would help create a cleaner place to play. An outdoor rug is nice as it can be hosed off to keep it clean.

Don’t be restricted to the campsite or the backyard: Toddlers can get bored with if there is nothing to do.  Try and plan an outing each day for a hike, bike ride, swimming or playground.

IMG_5336 (1)Fun in the Yard: A nature scavenger hunt is always fun! Go to the Dollar Store and find some inexpensive toys that can be hidden outside, found and played with!  Pool toys are particularly fun if you have put up a swimming pool set up for your little one to take a dip. Add some bubbles and flowers to create a fairy pool. 

 

Nighttime Fun: Plan on having a campfire. Camp chairs are fun to have and there are little ones made just for little tots. Remember to roast marshmallows. Sing songs and tell stories. Cook your food over the campfire: Campfire pizzas, campfire roasted hotdogs, and sausages cooked on sticks.  Hamburger, potatoes, and carrots cooked in tinfoil, oatmeal, bacon, and eggs, sandwiches. Keep it simple, Have fun.

IMG_5304Practice Sleeping in a Tent: Before actually sleeping in the tent, set it up with sleeping bags and mats etc.  Sleeping in the backyard is certainly good practice for when you do head to campgrounds or the woods.  Getting a small swimming pool with blow-up sides works nicely for toddlers sleeping in a tent for the first time.  Add a sleeping pad to the bottom, pillows, and blankets and you have created a safe and comfortable sleeping spot. A favorite blanket or stuffed animal is also welcome.  Put your potty training child in diapers at night.  Night time bathroom trips are tough.

Nighttime Awake Time:  Make a plan on how you will handle it if your child wakes up during the night and starts crying.  Consider bringing a portable nightlight so that there is a soft light.  My children always liked music so I would have your phone or computer set for some soft comforting music.  If sleeping in the “swimming pool” bed, blankets and stuffed animals should be nearby.  Be sure to watch for the fireflies and night and listen for outside noises.  Shadows on the tent wall with a flashlight and hands make for fun nighttime plays and stories. Giving your toddler a headlamp is also fun so your child can look at books while laying in their bed.

Camp with a Partner: This is must, it will save your sanity. One adult watches the kids while the other cooks or one prepares breakfast with the toddler while the other tears down camp with a baby in the pack n play. Be a team dividing up duties and everything will go a lot smoother.

Work together for a successful and fun camping experience.

 

 

Make Camping Magical: As you hike, walk, explore, try to see things through your child’s eyes. Some children love to look at bugs, other love to collect rocks, some like to look at flowers and some love to find frogs. There are so many things to look at in nature that can fill the day with wonder.

 

Some specific Potty Tips while camping:

Plan lots of potty breaks.   Don’t leave the camp until your child goes to the bathroom.  Demonstrate the need to go before leaving to your child. Once you leave, you don’t know when the next available time will come that you can use the bathroom again.

Offer Incentives: Don’t give treats for going to the bathroom but rather give treats for staying dry. Let the Potty Fairies leave treats when the day is going well and let your child find them here and there.  Let your child know that the Potty Fairies are noticing that your child is doing a great job.  Give lots of praise for what you want your child to be doing.  Catch them being good.  Share positive stories about your child’s potty training success when your child can overhear you! Gummy worms are a fun reward when camping.

Diapers are needed sometimes during potty training: Diapers in the car and at night.  For longer car rides we did opt for the diaper.  When driving in the car, wear the diapers and as soon as you arrive at the campsite, undies go back on.  At night time, have your child do a “before bedtime potty” and then put on diapers. As soon as your child wakes in the morning, have them go potty and put the undies back on.  Invite The Potty Fairies to leave a fresh pair of undies for your child at night to put on the next day. 

 

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Bring The Potty Fairy with you on your camping trip!  Download The Potty Fairy story on your device and share the story with your child while camping. Watch the magic come to life and potty training take off! Enjoy and have fun.

The Potty Fairy

Copyright June 2017

Potty Training Regression

 

Potty trainingAs a young mom, expecting a baby and having a 2-year-old at home, I was anxious to potty train my eldest daughter before my new baby came home.  We potty trained together when my daughter was 23 months, almost 2 years old.  She seemed ready and everything went smoothly until I brought home the new baby and when my 2-year-old became a big sister to a new baby sister.  It seemed almost instantly she was having accidents and my response at the time was to put her back into diapers.  At the time I was so busy with the new baby I was challenged to also give attention to my daughter who was regressing in her potty training. 

 

Cute Happy toddler sitting on potty outdoorIt was hard for me to understand why my daughter had regressed and what had happened. She seemed to be well on her way to successfully using the potty chair! Why did she suddenly reverse direction? I felt like a failure but learned that all our efforts were not a failure, but that I needed to understand why regression happened and get to the bottom of the problem and get back on track. Once things settled in with the new baby and we were able to get a reasonable schedule again, my eldest daughter returned to being potty trained. Although it did take a little effort and focus, we did not start back to the very beginning of potty training which is what I feared.

 

girl with new babyI learned that there is not usually one reason why kids regress when it comes to potty training. Often times, during times of transition that may cause some stress at home, like welcoming a new sibling or starting a new school, regression can occur and a potty trained child returns to needing diapers.   When this happens, you need to address the problem that caused the regression to be able to move beyond the setback. Chances are, once the transition takes place and things settle down, your child will master potty training again and be back into underwear. Patience during this time will be critical in getting thru the bumps and moving forward again. I found this to be true and that my daughter actually enjoyed the attention to get back into underwear, using the potty chair and the benefits of being the “older” sister.

If in time things do not resume to normal, you may want to check in with your child’s doctor as medical issues can also cause regression. Sometimes difficulty with pooping can cause a child to avoid using the potty chair altogether.  Accessing if this can be an issue is important and be sure to offer plenty of water and a fiber-rich diet that promotes easy pooping.

boy on potty riderIf your child is expressing fear of using the toilet, play games, read books and provide aids to make using the toilet more fun.  The Potty Fairy Potty Rider, available on our website.  has been so helpful in alleviating fears about the toilet. Children who have expressed fear of falling into the toilet feel secure on the Potty Fairy Potty Rider.  The Potty Fairy book and enrichment products can also be helpful in bringing imaginative fun to the process with books, music and other enrichment products.  Bringing imaginative fun and adventure to potty training motivates children to use the potty chair.  The little guy in the picture was fearful of the toilet but with Bolt the horse to keep him secure he is all smiles. 

 

Getting back on track with potty training will require some consistent reminders to use the potty chair. Make a commitment to schedule your child’s visit to the potty chair as a part of your routine. Your child should use the toilet at least every two hours to get them back on track. To help with the transition from regression to using the potty chair again begin to give gentle reminders and encouragement to use the potty chair. Often time accidents happen because a child is busy in an activity and they do not want to stop to go and use the bathroom. 

step stoolsExplain to your child they are a big boy or girl and that they need to use the bathroom rather than use a diaper.  Remind them every hour or two and walk them to the bathroom before meals, before bedtime and before leaving the home.  In between times when needed. Have them use the bathroom right away in the morning, before m

Your response to your child when they use the potty chair successfully or have an accident can have a strong impact on their progress. You will want to give lots of positive attention to success and calm attention to accidents. If an accident occurs, quickly and quietly assist your child to clean-up and do not make a big deal.  Make big deals about success!

 

Hockey Stick or BudIncentives to stay dry are helpful. It is worth your while to brainstorm rewards that will truly be a reward for your child. The Potty Fairies love leaving incentives or rewards for your child and this helps keep the rewards, rewards and not bribes. Give rewards for staying dry not using the potty chair. After a few successful days, provide a special treat to an ice cream store or toy store with just you. A special treat with their parent all to themselves.  Praise can be a huge reward too that they are your special big boy or girl, not a baby that needs diapers can be the best reward.

 

 

If you can, keep your child in underwear, even if they are in a period of regression.  You want your child to feel discomfort when they have an accident. You don’t want revert to diapers so that your child regresses back into diapers when they have been successful at wearing underwear. Keep them moving forward as an independent potty user! Best wishes. 

 

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The Potty Training Consultant recently wrote a blog post called “Potty Training Products I Love”, which is a lovely post about her 6 favorite potty training products. “The Potty Fairy” book was included in these favorite potty training products!  Please check out this blog post and see the other products recommended by Potty Training Consultant!

 

She shares that “working with many different families with children of all ages and abilities, I am always on the lookout for products to make the potty training process easier and more fun. I wanted to share with you what I feel are the best potty training products on the market right now. Get one, or get them all for the ultimate potty training experience!”

One of her favorite products is our “The Potty Fairy” book!

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She also shares: “The Potty Fairy is a brand new potty training book that brings a fun new approach to learning how to use the potty. It features the Potty Fairy and her helpers, Bud and Blossom, who visit children during their potty training process bringing rewards and encouragement. I love that this book is a different concept than what we’ve seen in potty training books in the past and will really speak to your child’s imagination.”

 

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The Potty Fairy book is being featured on Goodreads!  Please visit this site and give The Potty Fairy a 5-star rating and sign up for the Book Giveaway!  5 Books will be given away to 5 lucky winners!  If you want to read the story before rating, send us your email address and we will send you a free eBook from the Potty Fairy! 

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Different Approaches for Different Folks

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One of the beliefs we have at The Potty Fairy is that “one size, fits all” does NOT work for potty training.  We believe that children are unique and families are unique which calls for a unique potty training plan.   Another word used for a unique approach to learning is called “differentiation”.  Differentiation means that the approach to learning is different or individualized for each child, so that individual needs are met and the learning environment is specific and targeted.

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Differentiated potty training could be thought of being like baking a cake.  We all might decide to bake a cake but does that mean we all bake the same flavor?  Do we all back the same shape? Do we all put on the same kind of frosting?  The cake itself could be a symbol of potty training. We are all going to potty train.  The flavor of the cake could be associated with the method we might choose to potty train.  The shape of the cake might be the individualized plan we add to the method for potty training our child based on our child and our families lifestyle.  The frosting on the cake could be thought of like the rewards, motivators, and ways we celebrate our child’s success.  Make sense?

 

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The Potty Fairy products we offer are enrichment and enhancement products or the “frosting” or decorations on the cake.  The Potty Fairy offers books, dolls, tee shirts, underwear, stickers, crowns and The Potty Fairy Potty Rider.  We are planning to add a few more fun treats too! We bring in the imaginative play world that children love to learn in thru our book, song, fun clothing, and toys.  

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The Potty Fairy also shares this blog and we have posted 35 plus posts that target potty training topics to help you decide what your unique potty training plan will be. Our webinar potty training has been popular for larger groups of people who want to learn together. During the webinar, parents are presented lots of information and together we develop individualized plans. After our presentation, we have an open discussion and Q/A time.  Our webinar presentations are followed by email conversations for those parents who are interested in further discussion. 

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There has been a space in our outreach that has not been filled. There have been requests for individual consultation which we have not been able to provide for parents other than email correspondence.  Then we met, Allison Jandu, who is a Potty Training Consultant and specializes in Custom Potty Training Plans to fit any family’s needs!  She also has a blog. We reached out to Allison and asked her co-author the blog post this month so you could meet her.  We are so very excited to introduce you to Allison!

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As a professional consultant having worked with countless families to potty train their children, including my own two, I can tell you that there is no one-size-fits-all potty training method. Every child is different. My son, who is older, took a very casual approach to potty training. He was willing to follow direction and was eager to learn. My daughter, on the other hand, is very independent and headstrong, so I had to take an entirely different approach when potty training her. This is a perfect example of what works for one child, might not work for the next. So many factors contribute to how your child will learn including age, personality, your family’s lifestyle, and medical or developmental issues.

Not only is every child different, but every parenting style is different. Chances are you won’t always agree with every single aspect of one particular potty training plan. Then what? How do you change it to match your lifestyle? If you change one thing, will everything else still work? Getting your own individual plan avoids all of these questions and allows the potty training process to blend seamlessly into your lives with minimal disruption.

We all want the process to go as smoothly and quickly as possible, not just for our child’s sake, but for our own! This is why being prepared with a customized potty training plan is so important. When you are armed with the proper plan and STICK WITH IT, potty training is almost always a success.  It is also very important to have a strong support system in place for you during the process and for your child after the process. When you work with a consultant, you have a wealth of knowledge about potty training at your disposal for any questions or roadblocks you encounter as you go.

So, maybe you have no idea where to start. Maybe you tried potty training before without success and went back to diapers. Maybe after potty training your first child, you are dreading attempting it again. Working with a consultant and having an individualized plan going in really sets your child up for success. It also makes the process a lot easier on you – and who doesn’t want that!

Contact me today to find out how to get a custom potty training plan in the works for your child.

Allison Jandu

Potty Training Consultant

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Nighttime Potty Training

The Last Step: Nighttime Potty Training

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It is nighttime and your child is sleeping and you are going to go to bed. How will your child remember to use the potty chair during the night? You are not there to remind them. They are on their own.  Before deciding it is time to prepare your child for nighttime potty training let’s look at some information to consider before making your decision to start.

Most likely you have daytime potty trained your child sometime between the 2 years old and 3 years old time period.  Now that your child has the daytime potty training in place when is it time to consider nighttime potty training?   It is very common for the nighttime bladder control to not fully mature until ages 3-6 years.  It is recommended to wait for signs of your child staying dry at naps and overnight before considering nighttime potty training.

It is also not recommended to wake your child during the night to use the bathroom unless your pediatrician recommends doing so or if your child is older (5-7 years). A Dr. Chang adds, ”waking a child to use the bathroom is not very effective because once the parents stop waking up the children, they will go back to wetting the bed.”

A child’s nighttime sleep is extremely important and using a pull-up at night until they are developmentally ready for nighttime potty training is an easy solution realizing that they may be older before they are ready to stay dry all night or get up to use the bathroom. Be patient for their readiness and don’t sweat it!

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If you believe you and your child is ready for night time potty training you will want to follow the following steps.

As mentioned earlier, a child typically develops the ability to stay dry all night between the ages of 3-5.  Be watchful during this time period for signs of readiness, such as staying dry during naps and overnight.  If the ability to stay dry during these times doesn’t occur between 3-5, check with your pediatrician.  Some children have sensory issues and the ability to stay dry may be delayed and use of pull-ups at night may be extended.

When you see multiple dry diapers this is your window of opportunity to begin nighttime potty training. You will want to stop using diapers or pull-ups at this time because if they are available your child will choose to use them rather than staying dry. You don’t want that bad habit to start.

Some of you may have used the “bare-bottom” method for daytime potty training. If you did, continue this method into the nighttime potty training. Put your child to bed with a bare bottom with an oversized teeshirt.  The feeling of having something on may trigger your child to pee at night, even if underwear.  Remember, they are sleeping and the feeling of something there to catch their pee may cause them to pee. Bare bottom is best.

Because your child is in bed with a bare bottom, you will want to put a mattress protector on your child’s bed as there may be accidents.  In addition, you may want to place washable towels, blankets or waterproof pad underneath them.  There are pads that are soft and comfortable on one side and plastic and waterproof on the opposite side and easy to wash. These are ideal.  Due to the plastic waterproof side, these pads tend to stay in place. If there is an accident during the night, you can remove the wet pad, replace with another and the bed will still be dry.

At the time of nighttime potty training, you will want your child in a bed that your child can get in and out of easily.  You do not want your child in a crib where they are confined to the crib.  In addition, you may want to set-up a potty chair next to the bed for easy and quick access.

During daytime potty training it is recommended to pay attention to diet and fluids so that your child pees and poops easily.  When nighttime potty training you will want to limit the amount of fluid that your child drinks right before bedtime. Be sure after drinking fluids your child pees before crawling into bed.

Talk to your child about going bare bottom at night and not using pull-ups or diapers at night anymore because they are ready and staying dry.  Explain to them that they will pee right before going to bed to get rid of fluids so they can sleep.  Discuss what to do if they feel the need to pee at night and show them that their potty chair is nearby.  It would include a nightlight near their potty chair so that they can easily see.  It is not recommended to wake your child to pee at night but rather let them manage their own needs and let them sleep.

Be patient, celebrate dry nights, and don’t make a big deal of nighttime accidents.  Just clean up the accident and move on. Try again.  In time, there will be more dry nights than nights with accidents.  If the signs are there for developmental readiness the process should go well!

Remember that children are unique and one plan does not work for all.  Design the plan that works for you and your child. 

 

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Note: Yes, You Can!, manual written by Megan Pierson M.A. at Toddler Shop was used as a resource in this blog post. This manual will be available for purchase on The Potty Fairy website.  Please read further if you are interested in information regarding potty training and toddler sleep from Megan.

“Yes, You Can! “Potty Training / ToddlerSleep Manual

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“Yes, You Can”  manual is a Pediatrician and Urologist backed, easy-to-follow 3-4 day complete potty training guide, covering signs of readiness, how to prepare your home, days 1-3 of potty training, potty training charts, follow up recommendations, and certificates of achievement for your child.

I believe that sleep should never be compromised during the potty training process, so I have created a customizable visual nighttime chart as a fun and effective tool for you to implement with your toddler.

Contact me today at for all your toddler needs (potty, sleep, behavior). www.sleepshopoc.com/TODDLERSHOP or email me at megansleepshopoc@gmail.com and let’s get your little one potty trained and sleeping.

The Potty Fairy 2nd edition book is available in hardcover, softcover, and all e-book formats.  Available in English and coming soon in French and Spanish versions too!

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Potty Training Anxiety Is Real

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A couple months ago, my webinar partner Elsa and I presented a webinar to a group of parents.  The parents learned a lot from our presentation and question and answer session. Following the webinar, some of the parents continued to communicate with us by email.  The overwhelming question and struggle with the parents that continued to communicate with us was Potty Training Anxiety.

The level of urgency to figure out how to deal with Potty Training Anxiety created a need for us to do some research and dig more deeply and add some information to our webinar to include this topic. We have some helpful information to share regarding this topic. 

It is true that going potty brings up some scary thoughts for toddlers.   Many of these tykes are afraid of the toilet, the bathroom, going poop and using public bathrooms.   Addressing the fear surrounding the toilet, the bathroom, going poop and using public bathrooms seem to be the four main areas that potty training anxiety seems to pop up.

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Fear of the toilet because when it is flushed it makes a lot of noise.  The questions about what all is going to go down when that toilet has flushed come to mind!  Some children fear the toilet being flushed when they are still sitting up there.  They may be afraid that they could be sucked down the toilet with everything else!  Not only is the noise of the flushing toilet scary some children are afraid because they are sitting so high up with nothing around them!  Dangling feet can also make a child feel out of control. Believe it or not, some children have fears of snakes, fish, bugs and other creatures coming up out of the toilet and visiting them in this vulnerable position.   A child’s imagination can see that happening right before their eyes and seem very real.

 

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The bathroom can be a scary place for a child.  The things in the bathroom are like no other room in the house.  Not all that cozy either.  The bathroom can be dark and can only add to the scariness levels.  Think about adding a light to the bathroom that will always be on.  Add a basket of books and favorite comforting toys in a basket to add some comfort and coziness.  Some people like to make an iPad or kindle available so that their child might play some games and distract them from their fears.  Maybe a cute poster or picture that your child loves. Think about what equipment you might add to the toilet so that your child can feel safe and secure getting up to the toilet,  getting their feet secure and hanging on tightly.  A few small steps, with a place to set your feet and a handle to hang on to while you are on the throne will add safety and comfort. Being lonely or away from mom and dad can be a scary thing for a child, particularly if they are trying something new.  Do your best to be there for your little one when first learning to use the bathroom.  Parents are busy, but if you set the time aside for potty training and make it a priority, everything else needs to be set aside during this time period. You might need some support from another adult during this time to take care of things you would normally be taking care of so you can be there for your child when nature calls.

 

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Pooping can be anxiety provoking for some children, particularly if they have struggled with constipation and going poop hurts. If it hurt to poop once or twice, they may decide they never want to poop again. Be sure your child is not constipated and be sure they have a diet with fiber or provide them fiber supplements.  Plenty of fluids will help as well.  Keep track if they are pooping daily as that will be important to know so that they are not impacted.  See your doctor if diet, fluids, and supplements are not enough. Also, some children do not like to get dirty and going poop can create a mess.  Although pooping in the toilet sure beats going in your diaper or pants as far as a mess is concerned.  Be sure to talk them thru how you and your child will work together to clean up after a poop.

 

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Going to the bathroom in public bathrooms can be really tough on some children. Some will choose to hold whatever wants to come out until they get home.  This can be extremely uncomfortable for your child as well as cutting scheduled outings short.   Your child may need you to go into the stall with them and help them and comfort them.  Bringing familiar items with and taking your time so they do not feel rushed.  A book, toy or game to distract could help a lot.  This is a tough one as I have left many fun events as we couldn’t get past the anxiety of public bathrooms.  This happened to me with boys, who didn’t want to go to the woman’s bathroom! Thank goodness for family bathrooms that are available in most places today. 

Finally, for some children going poop can be a sensory issue. These children happily go poop in the diaper, knowing they are pooping and knowing when they are done. The diaper provides them a sense of security and familiarity.  When first potty training children with sensory issues and they are learning to poop in the potty chair, you may want to leave a diaper on, but a modified diaper with a hole cut in the back or rear so that poop can fall through.  Gradually cut away the diaper until there is little left.  Your child will learn that pooping in the potty chair is ok in time.

Talk to your child about these fears and find out what they are thinking.  Address their fears before their fears grow bigger and bigger.  Find solutions that address their fears and talk with them about what can be done so they feel better. Be creative!

 

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The Potty Fairy will be adding some Potty Fairy custom dolls to our line of products. There is a doll for girls, called Blossom and a doll for boys called Bud.  The dolls can help provide comfort and companionship during potty training to help relieve anxiety. Your child can carry the doll with them or have the doll set in the bathroom or living space to always be there during potty training.  The potty fairies can leave surprise rewards for your child when they are potty training successful so your child will never feel alone.  The fairies leave fresh undies during the night and your child can sleep with their doll and get support 24 hours a day.

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Our guest blogger from “UnderBearz” is another product that we believe could be very helpful to children potty training and would help alleviate any potty training anxiety.

Potty Training Fun

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Who doesn’t love to look forward to something fun? A long-needed vacation; a relaxing day off work; getting lost in a good book; spending time with the ones we love; really, the list is endless. Equally long is the list of things we dread.  At the top of the list for many parents is the task of potty training.  It seems especially daunting for those parents who are “first-timers.”  “I’m looking forward to starting potty training.” said no one ever!  Until that is, the idea of UnderBearz was born.

UnderBearz’ focus is on “turning potty time into playtime.”  That is what we do!  Studies on play have shown children learn by imagining and doing.   Play shapes our brains, develops skill, and gives stability to our emotions.  In an article entitled “Reflections on Pretend Play, Imagination, and Child Development,” Dorothy Singer, an expert in the field of children’s play points out that “Research has shown that children can begin playing imaginatively as early as 18 months…through play, a child begins to experience the world around him.  Pretend play is consistently associated with smiling, laughing and satisfaction in children.” So, at UnderBearz, we set out to create a toy, that capitalizes on the benefits of play and helps turn the sometimes-unpleasant task of potty training into a time of imaginative play that parent and child can engage in and look forward to. 

The UnderBearz kit includes: an adorable bear with underwear; a toy potty; an “I Can” laminated potty chart, where you can chart the progress and reward your child for all of the simple tasks your child can do as it relates to potty training; a sheet of UnderBearz stickers; a Pottyology how to Brochure, with tips on how to best use the kit; and a roll of specialty UnderBearz toilet paper just for your child and your child’s UnderBearz.  UnderBearz can be found on ETSY and on Amazon. So, go add potty time with UnderBearz to your list of the fun cause at UnderBearz we love…  “turning potty time into playtime.”  Happy Potty Training!