Poop, There It Is!

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Training your child to poop in the potty can be a little more challenging than just peeing, or “going with the flow”. When they poop, “Poop, There It Is” can be very exciting to see for you and your child.

When your toddler has trouble pooping there are some things you might want to consider.

Why Going Poop Can Sometimes Be a Problem

Going poop in the potty chair takes more time. Toddlers are very busy people. Taking time to poop can get in their way of all the fun things they want to do.  Plus it takes some effort!  Do what you can to make the time sitting on the potty chair more fun by providing some activities to do while your toddler sits there.  Many parents are using devices like I-pads and Kindles to provide activities while on the potty and offer their children picture books, short films, and activity APs for their toddler.  A good preschool readiness or kindergarten readiness activities AP could be meeting two goals at one time.  Books or small activities that your child can do while sitting on the potty chair also work. 

Sometimes it’s a matter of your child wanting control — the more you push him to poop, the more your tot enjoys his power to hold it in. Stay clear of power struggles! No one wins.  Fear might also be a factor — some kids have trouble pooping because they’re afraid they will fall in the toilet.  When first learning to poop, separate potty chairs from the “main” potty chair might want to be considered.  A squatting position or knees to tummy level also aids the bodies natural pooping functions as well. Dangling feet on a large potty chair do not enhance the bodies natural process of pooping.

Some attitude filters you may want to think about

This potty training problem can test a parent’s patience like none of the other developmental milestones — but remember that your child will learn to poop on the potty chair and it may take a little time and it is not a race or competition. Let your toddler set the pace.

Take a break when your child is resisting. Tell your child that when he’s ready to try and take a poop again, you’ll be there to help. Never try and force a toddler who has trouble pooping on the potty to sit there when he doesn’t want to.

Help him feel secure. If your tot is having trouble pooping because he’s afraid of falling in make sure you have a seat that is sturdy and safe. A step stool for your child’s feet to rest on if on a big toilet also provides a feeling of security. Or offer your child the option of using a potty chair near the floor.

Hold off on flushing.  Possibly come back later to flush the toilet. The noise of the toilet flushing can scare some children.

Reward your child for staying dry and not messing their pants.  Reward them for what you want them to accomplish.   Sometimes parent like to do reward charts.  I would reserve this for the last step to help motivate a child.  Some parents like to do charts with stickers for each time they poop will allow them to pick a prize.  It is best if a child can perform without expecting a prize as some children can develop an attitude of not wanting to perform unless they get a prize.  Unexpected random prizes for staying dry and clean is preferred.  Rewards charts can work for some.

Words of encouragement for learning to pee and poop on the potty chair can be helpful.  Have grandma, a friend or daycare provider provide a few words of encouragement.

Having your child “overhear” you sharing their success with another person is another way to provide encouraging words.  Share the good news with another adult when you know your child can hear you.  They will feel proud.


When your child has accomplished staying dry and clean and wearing underwear, plan a little celebration.  Let them decorate a Potty Fairy prince or princess crown.  Let them make the crown theirs and encourage their creativity. 

Bake some cookies or cupcakes together and share with some friends.  Let them know why you are celebrating.

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Moving from diapers that babies wear to Big Kid Underwear is a big developmental step that should be celebrated!  Help them feel good about what they have learned and that you are proud of them.

Just remember to reward yourself for all your good work helping your child!

Wishing you “Poop, There It Is” for you and your child.


Let The Potty Fairy help you with potty training your child.

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Child Led Potty Training Enhanced with The Potty Fairy


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Starting potty training when your child is ready can happen pretty easily.  When children are ready to potty train, power struggles tend to drop off.  No one wins in a power struggle.  Fighting with your child will not be helpful with potty training.

The idea of “potty training” your child is not actually what happens. Rather, you set-up conditions so that your child can learn. Your goal is to make the potty training process as easy and effortless as possible.  It is a process of learning that happens over time.


Here is an easy step by step process for this process:

1. Begin by reading books about going potty with your child.The story I would like to recommend is “The Potty Fairy” . Potty training dolls can also be very helpful. Most kids love them.

2. Remember that most of what kids learn is through our modeling. Start talking about what you’re doing in the bathroom. Let your child watch. Boys will benefit by watching other boys or their father use the toilet. Often times children have female caretakers and lack a male role model.  Dads involvement will make a big difference for boys.  The Potty Fairy has two helpers that deliver rewards and underwear.  Let Bud provide support for the boys and let Blossom provide support the girls for additional role-modeling supports.

3. Kids love to copy other kids. Slightly older cousins or friends who are willing to use the bathroom in front of your toddler can be invaluable in modeling. For boys, you might make a game of it by putting a small bulls-eye in the toilet for them to aim at. The older cousin or friend can talk about The Potty Fairy and the helper Bud  or helper Blossom who visited them when they were trained!

4. I strongly recommend having a potty in each bathroom of the house. That way, kids can practice sitting whenever they want, including while they keep you company in the bathroom. Some like to get a movable potty chair that can be moved from room to room when a child is first learning to potty.

5. Before actually starting to use the potty chair, just have your child to sit, fully clothed, on his potty.  Give them a chance to see what it is like without having to perform Make sitting on the toilet fun before thinking about peeing in it. For instance, be sure there is a stash of books next to the potty or a Kindle or iPad loaded with e-books, like “The Potty Fairy” ebook. Download The Potty Fairy CD/mp3 and play the story, song, and poem. Sing potty songs or give special cheers each time she gets on and off the potty. Make the experience fun and positive. Never force this on a child.

6. After your child is used to sitting on the potty clothed, ask them regularly if they want to sit on it naked. Sometimes he will say yes, and sometimes No. Don’t make a big deal of it. Your goal is just for him to get completely comfortable. Read “The Potty Fairy” book and other books while sitting on the potty chair. Toddlers are busy. You have to make the potty a place they love is if you want them to spend enough time there to let anything come out.

7. Once she’s totally used to sitting on her potty begin dumping the contents of her diaper into the potty each time you change her diaper. Explain that every day her body is making poop and pee, and they belong in the potty. Tell her that whenever she is ready, she will begin peeing and pooping right in the potty. After a while, let her help you empty the potty into the toilet and be the one to flush it. Wave goodbye to the poop. Reward your child for staying dry and clean. Have the Potty Fairies leave random treats and rewards around the house.

8. When he does pee or poop in the potty be sure to celebrate! But be sure you’re celebrating other things too. The celebration is for the child and all the things they do during the day including potty training. Remember, your child should be in control of the process. No pressure. Only focusing on potty training could feel like pressure. 

9. Don’t make the move into underwear until your child asks.  When ready to wear underwear, write a note to The Potty Fairy to leave a pair of undies at night for the next day when your child feels ready to start wearing underwear. Let it be their idea!

10. Notice when she gives signs that she is about to poop, i.e.becoming quiet, withdrawing to squat in private. Give her language for what’s happening:”Are you ready to poop? Do you want to do it in the bathroom?”Pooping takes a bit more time and concentration. Give them the extra time and privacy to poop. Sometimes an i-pad with activities helps them take the time to sit and wait for the body to do what it needs to do.

11. Be open if she requests a toilet seat. Many toddlers squat to poop and prefer a potty that allows them to assume a similar position. Typically children start with a small separate potty chair. Sometimes children are afraid of falling into the big toilet or are afraid of the flush.For going poop a small stool or bench for their feet is helpful if sitting on a regular toilet with a seat. It is difficult to poop with legs and feet dangling.

12. If you’re buying a seat to go on the potty or a separate potty chair, find one they love. Let them shop with you to find the special new potty chair.

13. Create a schedule for going to the bathroom.  Observe your child’s pattern and develop a schedule to keep them consistent. This will become something that the child will eventually do on their own without a set schedule. 

14.Reward your child for staying dry! Let the potty fairies leave random rewards for staying dry. Provide support and praise for using the potty chair. Help make sitting on the potty chair a pleasant experience and fun.

15. Expect accidents and don’t make a big deal.

17. Be enthusiastic but never pushy. Talk about what is happening as your child learns to use the potty chair.

18. If your child poops in her pull-up or pants help your child put it on the potty chair as that is where it belongs.

19. You set the stage for potty training and your child has to do the work.  Make sure your child is ready. Support with encouragement, praise and have regular visits from the Potty Fairy with rewards.

20. This is a big developmental step for your child. Make it a positive one where your child’s self-esteem and self-confidence grows.  When your child  has mastered the potty chair, have a celebration. Decorate a crown that your child decorates and make it a Potty Fairy Prince or Princess crown. A FREE crown template is available at www.thepottyfairy.com

Have a wonderful experience potty training your little one! Let the Potty Fairy help!

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The Three Day Method of Potty Training with The Potty Fairy

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Signs that Your Child is Ready for Potty Training: 

  • A child is independent and proud of accomplishments.
  • A child has dry periods.
  • A child does not like a dirty diaper.
  • A child notices others using the toilet.
  • A child can tell you when wetting their diaper
  • Pooping is obvious!
  • A child is interested in trying to use the toilet


Preparation for three-day method of potty training:

  • Get oversized tee shirts for your child to wear.
  • Get a potty chair that you can move around the house.
  • Let the Potty Fairies know that you are embarking on potty training.
  • Get The Potty Fairy book and CD.
  • Get relevant rewards that the Potty Fairies can leave.
  • Get awesome undies that can be left on your child’s bed at night to put on in the morning. Potty Fairy stickers are available to place on underwear so your child can know they are from the Potty Fairy.
  • Be ready to spend 3 intense days with your child at home. You will be together.

OK, here’s how to potty train your kid in three days:

  • When your child wakes up in the morning, change his soggy diaper and bid farewell. Have your kid throw the diaper out and say “bye-bye.”
  • Change your kid into one of the oversized T-shirts you got and explain there is no diaper to catch the pee-pee or poop, so he has to put it in the potty.
  • Give your kid breakfast and an extra drink. Afterward, lead your little one to the potty. It should be a successful trip after all those liquids.
  • Go on with the day, but remember, no leaving the house for three days. Play, read, color and watch cartoons.
  • Have a constant sippy cup of water at your kid’s reach. Just like crate-training a puppy, walk your child to the potty every 15 minutes, all day long for three days.
  • Cut off all liquids and snacks after dinner.
  • Complete one final potty mission before bed.
  • Wake your kid up halfway through the night to pee. (Yes, set an alarm.)
  • Repeat for the next two days.
  • Don’t get upset about accidents. They’re not a big deal.

Days Two and Three:

  • Repeat what you did on day one.
  • Don’t get upset about accidents. They’re not a big deal.
  • Don’t react to accidents.
  • Provide praise and rewards for staying dry.
  • Leave surprises for staying dry by the potty fairies throughout the day.
  • Make the day magical and fun.

After 3 days of successful potty training, plan a celebration:

  • Have a celebration!  It will help your child stay focused and remain “trained”.
  • Decorate a Potty Fairy Princess or Princess Crown to wear at the celebration party. (download a free crown template at www.thepottyfairy.com
  • Have your child help prepare the celebration.
  • Make cupcakes or cookies. Kids love to bake.
  • Make some decorations.
  • Have your child tell others at the celebration (family and close friends what they have accomplished!  A public announcement that they will now use underwear.
  • Let them show others their “big girl or boy” underwear.
  • This is a time that you and your child can feel proud of what you have accomplished. A time to celebrate your child as they are no longer a baby with diapers.

         Best wishes on your potty training journey!  Remember The Potty Fairy !

The Potty Fairy book is available in English, Spanish and French. All versions can be purchased on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. English versions and eBooks are available on our website at 25% of.
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Brightside Potty Training Method


The Brightside Potty Training Method Can Teach Your Child to Use a Potty In Just 3 Days

Undoubtedly, all parents take delight in watching their children grow at all stages of their development. Some of these stages are more complicated than others, including when our children make the transition from diapers to using a potty.

This is often a long and difficult road, which is why the people at Bright Side have found a great technique that works 100% of the time.

The “Fellom” technique involves having your child go naked from the waist down when at home, and wearing loose pants with nothing underneath when in public.

However, it’s also recommended that your child still wears diapers at night.

You will need to do the following to apply this method:

  • Set out several potties. Ideally, you should place one in each room of your home.
  • Always have diapers and several pairs of pants available in case of accidents.
  • If you live in a place where it’s often cold, make sure to turn up the heating and put socks on your child’s feet during this time.

On the first day:

  • Have your child go naked from the waist down for the whole day. Keep an eye on him/her. When they need to go, take them to the nearest potty.
  • Allow your child to consume salty snacks or foods with a high water content, and make sure they drink lots of fluids so that they have to pee often.
  • When you or your partner have to use the bathroom, take your child with you. Demonstrate to them all the different steps that adults do. Children learn things very quickly by example.
  • Celebrate with your little one every time they manage to use the potty correctly. Once they’ve managed this 10-12 times, children begin to be able to use it independently.
  • If your child doesn’t manage to use the potty, do not scold them or behave in any way that could make them feel ashamed. Instead, simply say to them, “The pee/poop goes in the potty.”
  • Before naps and bedtime, tell your child that it is time to use the potty. Avoid asking them if they want to go. Put a diaper on them just before falling asleep to avoid minor accidents.

On the second day stick to the method used on the first day.

  • On the second day, you should also take them out of the house for an hour in the afternoon. Wait for your child to pee on the potty, and then go out straight after. This helps them to learn to go to the toilet voluntarily.
  • When you leave the house, have your child wear loose pants with nothing underneath. Do not wear diapers or normal underwear. Your goal is to go out and get back to the house without having an accident and without having to use the potty when they are outside.
  • Stay close to your house. Simply take a walk around the neighborhood. Take a portable potty with you just in case.

On the third day:

  • Stick to the instructions you followed on the first day, but now you should also take your child out of the house twice: an hour in the morning and an hour in the afternoon. Each time, invite your child to use the potty before you go out.
  • Again, when you go out, your child should wear loose pants with nothing underneath. Take the portable potty and a change of clothes just in case things do not go well.

What do I do if my child isn’t potty trained in 3 days?

If you don’t get good results, wait approximately 6 to 8 weeks to try again. Remember that this technique requires patience, giving a lot of support, and time.


Remember that The Potty Fairy Enhances All Methods of Potty Training.

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The Potty Fairy Enhances All Methods



Trying to Find the Right Potty Training Method for You and Your Child?

Some methods are very focused on what the parent will do and some methods are more child focused. You will need to decide what methods best aligns with your parenting style.


All methods have some things in common.

1. All methods use praise and affection;

2. All methods are compatible with using rewards ( The Potty Fairy can help!)

3. All training processes should follow certain health and safety guidelines.

4. All training methods should have guidelines or advice on how to deal with potty training resistance.  (The Potty Fairy can help here too!)

Add the magical life components of patience, love, family, friends, food, and celebration. The Potty Fairy story,  rewards, stickers, underwear and FREE crown,  can aid in the potty training process no matter the method.

Some methods you might consider are:

1. Infant potty training

2. Child-oriented potty training

3. Toilet training in less than a day or in three days (“fast track” methods)

4. Gradual, parent-led toilet training

5. The “bare-bottom” method

The magic of The Potty Fairy can be added to any of these methods. The Potty Fairy story sets the stage for using The Potty Fairy as part of your potty training. The story taps into a child’s natural desire to use their imagination and be playful.  The Potty Fairy provides rewards, stickers, underwear and FREE crown,  that is related to what the child is learning about. The Potty Fairy is an enhanced reward system for a child learning to potty train and helps develop an environment of learning that is fun, imaginative and adventurous. The magical life components of patience, love, family, friends, food and celebration and The Potty Fairy rewards can aid in the potty training process no matter the method.

The Potty Fairy Enhances All Methods of Potty Training.

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The Potty Fairy Potty Training Basics


Children love to hear about the Tooth Fairy and how she visits when a child loses a tooth.  Children love “made-up” characters, like Santa and the Easter Bunny, that bring delight and fun to their lives.  Developmentally, these characters bring play and magic to a child’s life. Play is how a child learns and make sense of the world around them. 

The Potty Fairy will enchant their life much in the same way during the potty training process. Potty training is an important developmental stage of a child’s life. Why not make this stage magical, fun and exciting for a child.

The Potty Fairy story is about a group of a fairies that delight in the potty training process and want to bring support and rewards to children who are potty training. The Potty Fairy is the head of the group but she has helpers. The main helpers are Bud and Blossom who bring underwear and crowns to children who are potty training. Bud for boys and Blossom for girls.

Potty Fairy Potty Training Tips and Basics:

Potty training is a big step for kids and parents alike.  Successful and happy potty training is crucial to the development of a child. The secret to success? Patience — perhaps more patience than you ever imagined. Incentives, and positive rewards. The Potty Fairy Incentive Program can provide incentives and rewards along with any individual “perks” that your child will respond positively to. 

How do you know when its time?

Potty-training success depends on physical and emotional readiness, not a specific age.      Potty training success can also depend on what is happening in the family. Be sensitive to the child’s needs and what other stressors might be occurring at the time you decide to potty train. A new baby in the family can cause some delay in the readiness of the 2 or 3-year-old child.  There really is no rush.

Some signs that your child may be ready to try:

  1. Your child is interested in the potty chair and in wearing underwear.
  2. Your child is aware when they need to go potty and can tell you.
  3. Your child seems to follow basic directions about other activities.
  4. Your child stays dry for 2 hours or more during the day.
  5. Your child does not like to be wet or messy and communicates with you that they need a change of diapers or clothes.
  6. Your child is starting to want to dress themselves and can take clothes on and off.
  7. Your child likes to sit on the potty chair and can stay there for a period of time.

Give it a try!

When you decide it’s time to begin potty training, set your child up for success. Start by maintaining a sense of humor and a positive attitude — and recruiting all of your child’s caregivers to do the same. Potty Fairy incentives can help the process! Children love to play and imaginative things.  Include the Potty Fairy stories, song, incentives underwear to make the process fun.  Read the Potty Fairy story so the magic can begin.  Have the song playing for the few days you will have targeted potty training happening.  When the child is willing to start going potty on the potty chair, let the fairies deliver the special underwear for your child in the night and use the next day.  Children love the undies and typically do not want them to get soiled or wet.  At the end of the long weekend, and things have gone well, let the fairies deliver the crown, or make one together with your child so that they can wear and let others know of their success. Reward stickers along the way also provide incentives for your child. 

Pull out the equipment
Place a potty chair in the bathroom. You might want to try a model with a removable top that can be placed directly on the toilet when your child is ready. Help your child understand how to talk about the bathroom using simple, correct terms. You might want siblings or a parent show the child what the potty chair is for.  Share the potty fairy story and song with your child so that there is a child’s imaginative play incorporated.  Have the fairies deliver incentives during the process to keep the motivation high.   Give yourself a long weekend to focus on the process and make it memorable and special.  3 days is a reasonable amount of time for success.  Most families that I have worked with have found success over the weekend.  

Enjoy the process and have fun! The Potty Fairy

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