Potty Training Multiples

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When we first started the AskThePottyFairy.blog, we wondered how many potty training topics there would be to write about and share on our blog.  We are amazed at the number of topics associated with potty training and look forward to another year of providing blog posts as there is always more to learn.  The questions and topics keep rolling in! Consider following the AskThePottyFairy.blog so that you are alerted when new blogs are posted!

Coming up in November, The Potty Fairy has been asked to provide a potty training session for a group of parents in Toronto, Canada (TROMBA)   The Potty Fairy will be offering a webinar conference for the Toronto Parents of Multiple Births Association. Registrations are coming in and we are expecting a large group who will login in to participate in this session! In preparation for this specific webinar training, we are offering a blog post this month focusing on “Potty Training Multiples”. 

Note: If you are interested in offering a webinar training on potty training for your association, please send us an email and we would be happy to accommodate your specific interests and ideas.

Potty Training Multiples

So the big questions for parents of multiples are how do I potty train twins, triplets or more?  How do I differentiate typical training for one child to accommodate more than one child?  What if one of the children I am training is succeeding and the other is not? How do I keep both on track and feeling positive?  How do I organize for potty training and accommodate for more than one?

Parents of twins, triplets or more typically feel very overwhelmed when it comes to potty training their children. I would say that parents of one are also overwhelmed, but potentially double that for parents of twins and triplets.  Parents of multiple children are capable of this task as everything they do requires more organization and the ability to handle more chaos. So with a bit more preparation, support, and solid understanding, parents of multiples will conquer potty training! ( Kinda superhuman parents)

Parents of multiple children, please read on…

First, as with all parents potty training your children, you will want to make sure you are ready for the task and schedule potty training at a time with the least amount of distraction and stress. You will want to schedule potty training when you get another adult to commit to the training session alongside of you. Two people are needed when training multiple children. Prepare for success.

Secondly, you will want to be sure your children are developmentally ready for potty training. Typically, 2 1/2 to 3 years old. As with everything, this is an average, and some children potty train earlier and some later. With multiples, I would consider observing when both or all children demonstrate readiness for better odds for success and streamlining the process for you and your family.

Third, review the Methods of Potty Training on the AskThePottyFairy.blog site.  There are a variety of methods and approaches. You may want to look elsewhere for a review of methods as well. Read, reflect, consider and decide which method makes the best sense for you to use.  Just make a decision about your “game plan” and go from there.  You will add some unique differentiation for your children but have a base plan.

Next, prepare your environment and when getting your equipment purchase more than one potty chair.  Some people suggest letting your children have their own special potty chair, and some say no. You will have to make a decision on that one! (Personally, I would let them have their own and let them make it uniquely theirs.) Have multiple potty chairs and perhaps in more than one location.  Don’t forget to make accommodations for your home such as covering furniture, removing rugs and such.

Download a free Top Twelve Potty Training Tips sheet on the website and hang on the refrigerator for a reminder and reference. Add these “Potty Training Multiples Tips”:

DON’T compare

DON’T pressure

DO be patient

Do individualize for differences

Unique for training multiples, you will want to individualize your method for learning styles, motivational rewards and gender differences of your twins, or triplets. Think about how you would like to differentiate for these differences for your multiple children.  Learning styles and motivational rewards can be different for boys and girls along with anatomy differences.  Accommodate for these differences.  The method you proceed with will have unique differences for each of your children.

There is always the notion that the twins could be a positive influence on each other and be using the potty chair.  Keep it fun, positive and individualized you will be sure to be successful.  It has been said that twins can motivate each other in the process.

Unique “Potty Training Multiples” Issues:

What to do if one twin is making progress and the other is not?  To hold one back because the other is not making progress does not make sense.  I would move forward with the twin that is making progress and let them potty in the potty chair.  I would diaper up the uninterested child and not make a big deal of it.  Typically, the second or third child will catch-up pretty quickly.

DON’T feel you have to potty train your twins at the same time. Some twins, especially boy/girl sets, learn to use the toilet as much as a year apart — and that’s okay. All kids are different (even if yours look a lot alike). Still, lots of parents decide to tandem toilet train as soon as one seems ready so as not to prolong the process. And if things go well, the less eager twin will show more interest when she sees her sib using a potty.

How to manage Reward and praise as to not compare? Try to manage each of the children individually and not comparatively. Look for positives in both. Minimize accidents and setbacks.

DON’T use charts when you potty train twins. Charts show an obvious comparison between your children. One or two stickers are a great reward — with any luck, both kids will be getting their share — but putting them on a chart can be a constant visual reminder to one twin that she’s “behind” the other. Let them use their stickers in a different way so comparisons are lessened or eliminated.

DON’T use one twin’s potty success to encourage the other. The twin who’s taking his time with potty training will be able to figure out the progress of his sibling without you pointing it out. Instead of being motivating, comparisons might intensify feelings of jealousy or competition. Learning quickly doesn’t have to be the “better” way to learn to use the potty chair.  Praising your children for different attributes can make both of them feel successful and good about themselves.

I share this post with all due respect for parents of twins and triplets or more.  I look forward to the conversation we will have at the end of the webinar and realize there is always more to consider and learn.  I am hoping to learn together with you that evening. After the webinar and our discussion, I am visualizing adding more to this particular post as I learn from you. Please feel free to leave comments on the blog too and we can start the conversation early!

And “The Potty Fairy” Enhances All Methods of Potty Training, Even for Multiples!!!

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The Three Day Method of Potty Training with The Potty Fairy

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Signs that Your Child is Ready for Potty Training: 

  • A child is independent and proud of accomplishments.
  • A child has dry periods.
  • A child does not like a dirty diaper.
  • A child notices others using the toilet.
  • A child can tell you when wetting their diaper
  • Pooping is obvious!
  • A child is interested in trying to use the toilet

 

Preparation for three-day method of potty training:

  • Get oversized tee shirts for your child to wear.
  • Get a potty chair that you can move around the house.
  • Let the Potty Fairies know that you are embarking on potty training.
  • Get The Potty Fairy book and CD.
  • Get relevant rewards that the Potty Fairies can leave.
  • Get awesome undies that can be left on your child’s bed at night to put on in the morning. Potty Fairy stickers are available to place on underwear so your child can know they are from the Potty Fairy.
  • Be ready to spend 3 intense days with your child at home. You will be together.

OK, here’s how to potty train your kid in three days:

  • When your child wakes up in the morning, change his soggy diaper and bid farewell. Have your kid throw the diaper out and say “bye-bye.”
  • Change your kid into one of the oversized T-shirts you got and explain there is no diaper to catch the pee-pee or poop, so he has to put it in the potty.
  • Give your kid breakfast and an extra drink. Afterward, lead your little one to the potty. It should be a successful trip after all those liquids.
  • Go on with the day, but remember, no leaving the house for three days. Play, read, color and watch cartoons.
  • Have a constant sippy cup of water at your kid’s reach. Just like crate-training a puppy, walk your child to the potty every 15 minutes, all day long for three days.
  • Cut off all liquids and snacks after dinner.
  • Complete one final potty mission before bed.
  • Wake your kid up halfway through the night to pee. (Yes, set an alarm.)
  • Repeat for the next two days.
  • Don’t get upset about accidents. They’re not a big deal.

Days Two and Three:

  • Repeat what you did on day one.
  • Don’t get upset about accidents. They’re not a big deal.
  • Don’t react to accidents.
  • Provide praise and rewards for staying dry.
  • Leave surprises for staying dry by the potty fairies throughout the day.
  • Make the day magical and fun.

After 3 days of successful potty training, plan a celebration:

  • Have a celebration!  It will help your child stay focused and remain “trained”.
  • Decorate a Potty Fairy Princess or Princess Crown to wear at the celebration party. (download a free crown template at www.thepottyfairy.com
  • Have your child help prepare the celebration.
  • Make cupcakes or cookies. Kids love to bake.
  • Make some decorations.
  • Have your child tell others at the celebration (family and close friends what they have accomplished!  A public announcement that they will now use underwear.
  • Let them show others their “big girl or boy” underwear.
  • This is a time that you and your child can feel proud of what you have accomplished. A time to celebrate your child as they are no longer a baby with diapers.

         Best wishes on your potty training journey!  Remember The Potty Fairy !

The Potty Fairy book is available in English, Spanish and French. All versions can be purchased on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. English versions and eBooks are available on our website at 25% of.
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Potty Training a Child With Autism

 

 

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High admiration to all the moms and dads parenting children who have autism. Your love, patience, and perseverance are that of heroes.  Your children are blessed to have you as their parent.

Recently, I joined some Potty Training Groups on Facebook, so that I could read posts from parents who are working at potty training their children.  I was interested in evaluating if the AskThePottyFairy.blog had a comprehensive list of posts for parents who may be seeking information regarding potty training.  After a few months of reviewing parent posts this summer, I have concluded that our blog has a well-rounded menu of topics regarding potty training, with the exception of one topic, “Potty Training a Child Who Has Autism”. 

CalvinI found that there were many posts from parents seeking answers to questions they had about potty training a child who had autism.  In addition to my findings from reading the posts,  on a personal level, our family includes a special boy and much-loved boy, who has autism.  Although he is potty trained, I was curious about the process for him. 

Truthfully, our little guy has been a little bit of a puzzle and a mystery for me but once I realized he was not going to be the same as what I was used to with the other kids in our family and I accepted that fact, everything changed. I learned to love him for who he is and enjoy him for who he is. I truly believe there are no limits to what he will do. He is beautifully unique, and oh, so special. The love from him in return is enormous.

 

Calvin 2For our little guy and other children with autism, potty training can be a challenge for many different reasons.  I would like to share some of what I have learned:

1.  One reason is that many children who have autism have difficulty transitioning from routines. So for potty training, the routine is using a diaper or pull-up.  Moving from a diaper to using the toilet and wearing underwear is a big break in routine that requires some effort.

2.  Another reason is that children with autism have communication challenges, which can create a barrier regarding telling someone that they need to use the bathroom.

3. As with many changes and transitions, children with autism can develop anxiety about change so anxiety around using the toilet can occur.

4. Due to sensory issues, children with autism may not get the signals that they need to go to the bathroom so nonverbal cues may not be demonstrated!  They may “go without warning” or make it difficult for caregivers to get them to the bathroom on time.

5. Children with autism have the same signs of readiness as other children.  The age that these signs show-up may not be the same as other children.

 

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Thankfully, there are some strategies that can help to address these issues that children with autism can benefit when learning to use the toilet:

1. An important first step is to realize that toilet training is largely about communication and working together with your child.

2. Visual prompts are extremely helpful. Pictures of the steps when using the toilet are helpful. Use pictures and use simple and direct messages when using visual prompts.  Visual prompts with simple directions are the most effective with no discussion. Be supportive.

3. Don’t delay the underwear! Move your child into underwear as soon as possible. This step is true for all children. 

4. When an accident occurs, minimize the accident, clean up the accident and your child and move on. Have as little conversation about the accident as possible.

5. Reward your child for success, or “catch them doing good”.  Rewards can be activities, favorite snacks, or a small toy.  Keep these as rewards, not bribes. There is a difference.

Consider including a visual picture of your child receiving a reward for successfully following all the steps. Rewards should be immediate and consistent.

6. As your child progresses in using the toilet, work at a signal he can show that means he needs to use the bathroom. Maybe a visual signal he can give you that he needs to go and may need your help.

-Perhaps you would want to put a picture of a toilet on his belt loop or shirt button hole and he could point to it when he believes he needs to go to the bathroom.

-Later, your child may show ‘body motions” to demonstrate that they need to use the bathroom and will no longer need a visual picture.

7. Definitely reward your child for any effort to communicate. Make sure the rewards you give your child are truly rewarding for your child.

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8.  To help with anxiety, we would like to recommend a product called “The Potty Rider” to help your child feel more confident and less afraid about using the toilet.  This tool has helped many children with autism overcome the anxiety they feel when getting themselves up to the toilet seat.  “The Potty Rider” has sturdy steps that your child can use to get up to the toilet and handlebars to hang on to for added security.  The Potty Rider” comes in different styles including a motorcycle, a dinosaur, and horses.  The Potty Rider” helps children move from anxiety to having fun. The “Potty Fairy Potty Rider”, “Bolt ( black)  and Beauty(white) ” styles are available on our website  ww.thepottyfairy.com and other styles and testimonials can be found at pottyrider.com/

Finally, I would like to mention that there is a FREE download of a complete guide to potty training children with autism.  The link is here.  “Autism Potty Training-The Ultimate Guide” 

Remember The Potty Fairy book to add fun and creative imaginative play to your potty training process! Available in 3 languages! www.thepottyfairy.com

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Different Approaches for Different Folks

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One of the beliefs we have at The Potty Fairy is that “one size, fits all” does NOT work for potty training.  We believe that children are unique and families are unique which calls for a unique potty training plan.   Another word used for a unique approach to learning is called “differentiation”.  Differentiation means that the approach to learning is different or individualized for each child, so that individual needs are met and the learning environment is specific and targeted.

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Differentiated potty training could be thought of being like baking a cake.  We all might decide to bake a cake but does that mean we all bake the same flavor?  Do we all back the same shape? Do we all put on the same kind of frosting?  The cake itself could be a symbol of potty training. We are all going to potty train.  The flavor of the cake could be associated with the method we might choose to potty train.  The shape of the cake might be the individualized plan we add to the method for potty training our child based on our child and our families lifestyle.  The frosting on the cake could be thought of like the rewards, motivators, and ways we celebrate our child’s success.  Make sense?

 

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The Potty Fairy products we offer are enrichment and enhancement products or the “frosting” or decorations on the cake.  The Potty Fairy offers books, dolls, tee shirts, underwear, stickers, crowns and The Potty Fairy Potty Rider.  We are planning to add a few more fun treats too! We bring in the imaginative play world that children love to learn in thru our book, song, fun clothing, and toys.  

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The Potty Fairy also shares this blog and we have posted 35 plus posts that target potty training topics to help you decide what your unique potty training plan will be. Our webinar potty training has been popular for larger groups of people who want to learn together. During the webinar, parents are presented lots of information and together we develop individualized plans. After our presentation, we have an open discussion and Q/A time.  Our webinar presentations are followed by email conversations for those parents who are interested in further discussion. 

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There has been a space in our outreach that has not been filled. There have been requests for individual consultation which we have not been able to provide for parents other than email correspondence.  Then we met, Allison Jandu, who is a Potty Training Consultant and specializes in Custom Potty Training Plans to fit any family’s needs!  She also has a blog. We reached out to Allison and asked her co-author the blog post this month so you could meet her.  We are so very excited to introduce you to Allison!

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As a professional consultant having worked with countless families to potty train their children, including my own two, I can tell you that there is no one-size-fits-all potty training method. Every child is different. My son, who is older, took a very casual approach to potty training. He was willing to follow direction and was eager to learn. My daughter, on the other hand, is very independent and headstrong, so I had to take an entirely different approach when potty training her. This is a perfect example of what works for one child, might not work for the next. So many factors contribute to how your child will learn including age, personality, your family’s lifestyle, and medical or developmental issues.

Not only is every child different, but every parenting style is different. Chances are you won’t always agree with every single aspect of one particular potty training plan. Then what? How do you change it to match your lifestyle? If you change one thing, will everything else still work? Getting your own individual plan avoids all of these questions and allows the potty training process to blend seamlessly into your lives with minimal disruption.

We all want the process to go as smoothly and quickly as possible, not just for our child’s sake, but for our own! This is why being prepared with a customized potty training plan is so important. When you are armed with the proper plan and STICK WITH IT, potty training is almost always a success.  It is also very important to have a strong support system in place for you during the process and for your child after the process. When you work with a consultant, you have a wealth of knowledge about potty training at your disposal for any questions or roadblocks you encounter as you go.

So, maybe you have no idea where to start. Maybe you tried potty training before without success and went back to diapers. Maybe after potty training your first child, you are dreading attempting it again. Working with a consultant and having an individualized plan going in really sets your child up for success. It also makes the process a lot easier on you – and who doesn’t want that!

Contact me today to find out how to get a custom potty training plan in the works for your child.

Allison Jandu

Potty Training Consultant

pottytrainingconsultant@gmail.com

www.pottytrainingconsultant.com

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The Potty Rider & Other Potty Inventions

 

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Wow! There is a tremendous amount of equipment out there to consider when you decide to potty train your child!  As you know The Potty Fairy believes that children and their parents are unique individuals and because of that fact, a wide selection of options is a bonus!  It important to device a potty training plan that you are comfortable with.  You may want to do some homework or research regarding potty training equipment before diving into potty training so that you can make an informed decision on what your child needs and what you are comfortable using before potty training begins.

So what equipment is out there to think about? 

  1. Potty Chairs that sit on the floor- many styles and versions to meet every need.
  2. Potty Seats for the toilet- a wide variety of seats with different features.
  3. Ladders to the toilet seat so that your child can safely navigate their way to the top!
  4. Stools for your child to rest their feet on so their feet don’t dangle, especially with pooping!
  5. Special urinals for boys so they can learn to potty standing up.
  6. Portable urinals again for boys on the go.
  7. Portable potty chairs that are lightweight and fold-up.
  8. Portable potty liners for easy disposal of deposits.
  9. Seat liners for sitting on public potty chairs.
  10. Potty chairs that entertain.
  11. Special wipes.
  12. Decorative items to drop in the toilet water to make going potty more fun.
  13. Lights on the toilet seat to light up your potty chair at night.

The Choices Can Be Overwhelming!

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The thing is there really is equipment that is worth the research.  I was so surprised to find the portable urinal for boys!  How helpful would that be?  And a portable potty chair for girls!  These portable pieces of potty equipment could be so helpful in our busy world.  Plus, you find that they are not that expensive.

So the gist of this post is to take a look at what equipment is available and consider what would be helpful in your lifestyle and your mode of operation.  Get yourself equipped before starting the potty training process to help make the process as smooth and efficient as possible for your unique needs.  As an added note, it helps to include your child when selected particular equipment as it helps with their “buy-in” and enhances their confidence about the whole thing.

To add to the equipment theme this month, we are highlighting a new potty training invention that has recently been made available that makes sitting on the potty chair a lot more fun for your child!

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Sometimes the best ideas come from a good laugh! This is exactly how the Potty Rider® potty training stool, the brain-child of Fred & Elna Mulford, began.  Originally an idea for a gag gift for a motorcycle lover, the Potty Rider® prototype instantly gave Fred & Elna the idea of the perfect tool for parents potty training their children.  The Potty Rider’s design evolved from the PVC original to a beautiful Baltic Birch plywood that is sturdy, safe and long lasting potty stool.

image002When Potty Rider® launched in June of 2017, the Mulford’s expected a measure of success because there was no other product like it on the market.  But they were unprepared for the overwhelming, positive response from parents (over 13M views of the Potty Rider® introduction YouTube Video); and the tidal wave of orders.  The success of the patented Potty Rider® comes from the commitment to quality that Fred & Elna have established in its’ design.  Every Potty Rider is handcrafted here in the U.S. and absolutely focused on the safety.  The built-in step platform is outfitted with non-slip treads, cool grip handlebars, and a sturdy stool platform – all of which helps your child feel safe, supported & encourages them to use the “Big Potty”.  And the small footprint design is light & easy to store in the shower or bathtub when not in use.

But as important as the safety features are, what makes Potty Rider such an excellent potty training (s)tool 😊 is the child-friendly designs (motorcycles, ponies & more, Oh My!) and the cool accessories (sound boxes, iPad holder, etc.) that turn potty training from trauma to FUN!  For parents & children (including children with special needs); Potty Rider® is the perfect #PottyTraining solution; ensuring No Tears – No Fears – Just Cheers!  Learn more about Potty Rider at www.thepottyrider.com

 

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Potty Training is Child’s Play

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Parents want to provide the best possible opportunities for their children.  The use of the internet and technology has provided parents a vehicle to research a wide range of topics, including potty training.  We are happy you have found yourself here at The Potty Fairy blog: AskThePottyFairy.blog You will find articles regarding many potty training topics and potty training information. 

Why and how The Potty Fairy enhances any potty training method that you select is the topic of discussion of this blog article.  The underlying reason many parents have found success in potty training their child by using The Potty Fairy is because  The Potty Fairy bring imaginative play to the process.  Why is  this important and why is play important for your child? Please read on and learn more about this particular idea. 

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Educational research tells us  that children learn best in an environment which allows them to explore, discover, and play.  Play is closely tied to the development of a child’s cognitive, socio-emotional, and physical behavior and development.  Play is a child’s work and it is how a child learns.  Integrating play into the potty training process can only enhance a child’s potty training experience.  The use of The Potty Fairy in the potty training process integrates play into the process and will help your child be successful. It amazes me that more has not been done on the topic of play and potty training.  Educational research has been clear about the importance of play and the importance of good potty training experience!

Learning through play is a term used in education and psychology to describe how a child can learn to make sense of the world around them.  Children develop social skills and cognitive skills thru play.  It has been noted that children can mature emotionally, and gain the self-confidence required to engage in new experiences and environments thru play.  Potty training requires a child to use social and cognitive skills. It also requires a child to mature and develop self-confidence to be able to successful use the potty chair. Play can help these areas. 

2553FB66-A572-435A-9308-DE277262FD9AImaginative play is essential in the learning process and can advance cognitive development. Through imaginary games and storytelling children  can learn new skills. The Potty Fairy is all about imaginative play.  The child dreams of fairies that leave “catch them being dry” prizes.  The Potty Fairy  leaves underwear on the bed at night to wear the next day.  The child imagines The Potty Fairy watching their potty training process and how they are doing. The Potty Fairy and her helpers are there to support and encourage the child.  A child’s parent can embellish on The Potty Fairy involvement as much as they like, thru stickers, notes, and underwear.  Parents use their imaginations to make the potty training process as playful and imaginative as they like! It can be a whole lot of fun!

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Using play and imagination to support a child’s learning, supports and encourages a child’s healthy development. Potty training is an important developmental process for a child. A negative potty training experience is concerning and should be avoided. Creating a positive process embedded in play and imagination creates a positive and healthy learning process.

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Learning primarily happens around four major learning modalities.  These modalities are:

Visual learning

Auditory learning

Read/write learning

Kinesthetic learning or movement

Involvement in all the areas of learning is a comprehensive way to embed learning.  The Potty Fairy products provide learning opportunities in all areas.3AD1DC33-34E5-424A-9768-9669D8B9BF21

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The Potty Fairy provides enrichment products  in all 4 learning modalities.  The Potty Fairy e-books, stickers, underwear, CD/MP3 download  provides learning in all learning modalities.  Free downloads on The Potty Fairy website will also enhance your child’s learning in all modalities. Fill out the contact form and let us know that you want to be alerted to new materials be added!

 

The Potty Fairy Reward Chart encourages learning all the major learning modalities.  The chart has different activities for the child to do and perform and there are activities in all areas of learning. Stickers can be used to mark the activities performed and completed.  Activities include imaginary games and storytelling which will help children adapt learning habits and improve their vocabulary.

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The Potty Fairy not only helps a child to learn to use the potty chair but will also encourage cognitive development, creative thinking and imaginative play.  Essential preschool skills are worked on and developed. You will see your child gain self-confidence thru imaginative play.  The Reward Chart activities will help your child gain important skills that they can use in other areas of their young lives thru this experience.  The activities and learning that happen with potty training can be transferred to learning throughout a child’s young life. This is just the beginning of exciting preschool years.  

 

We encourage to ask questions, to make comments and dialogue with us! 

If you are preparing to potty train your child, select a method that you feel comfortable with and purchase The Potty Fairy products and download the FREE products to enhance your child’s potty training experience with imaginative play and essential learning opportunities. Make your child’s potty training experience positive and the best possible experience available. You will be glad you did!  The Potty Fairy

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Potty Training Made Easy!

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Guest blogger, Sirri McNeil posted a blog about The Potty Fairy today on her blogsite.  We are featuring her article on AskThePottyFairy.blog as she shares a positive, light-hearted message about The Potty Fairy and potty training. Thank you for your positive thoughts about The Potty Fairy Sirri!

Here is Sirri’s thoughts about potty training and The Potty Fairy:

Potty Training, the exhausting, messy, adventure that all parents know too well.

There are so many different routes you can take when it comes to potty training. The key is finding what works for your little one. Keep in mind no matter how or when you decide to potty train it’s going to give you a headache. There will be accidents, crying, fit throwing, screaming, tantrums on the floor, and that’s just you.

Since Potty training can be so stressful what better way to start the adventure of potty training, than with a little magical fun? We all know there is nothing glamorous about potty training so why not try to make the best of it. Having the right tools on hand is definitely important in starting the journey of kicking diapers to the curb.

Something that worked for my son was always having a couple of good potty training books for him.

Books that explained to him the ups and downs of learning to use the big potty. This gave him something to read while sitting on his potty and he would actually look forward to using the potty so he could read his special books.

This product was given to me for free – regardless all thoughts and reviews are my own.

The Potty Fairy is an adorable website that offers a bit of help to your kiddos. With a downloadable book, songs, potty training underwear to a blog on the website with tons of information for parents. The Potty Fairy has it all.

The Potty Fairy is in a way like the tooth fairy, a fun, magical way to help your child’s potty training journey. The potty fairies offer support and fun for your child.

So, go ahead and purchase your extremely affordable book, a very large cup of coffee, and dive in!

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Weekend Sports Camp Method

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The Weekend Sports Camp Method

This method is for parents who like to plunge right into potty training and focus intensively on the potty training process.  This method of potty training is not for all parent-child relationships and is not for a younger child or baby.

It this method will work, will also depend on a child’s personality. Some children do not like to be pushed out of diapers too quickly, while other children welcome the opportunity and train quickly and easily.  This concentrated method is similar to the gradual method, but it is more concentrated and moves at a quicker pace.

Being a teacher for gifted children, who differentiated curriculum for quick learners in the school system, it is refreshing to know that there is differentiated potty training methods as well! It makes perfect sense.  Every child is different and every parent is not the same. Different methods are needed to reach this goal and The Potty Fairy enriches and enhances every method.

BEFORE Potty Training Game Warm-up

Children who are verbal, positive and receptive to pre-potty training warm-up and want to please attitude toward their potty trainers are suitable candidates for this intensive method of potty training.  (Notice the “warm-up” which is much like a game.)

The concentrate is the key. Approach the weekend with a fun-loving attitude that comparable to playing a game, not a competition.  To be successful, you will need to be with your child constantly while they are awake.  You will need to watch your child’s every move and be alert to any bowel or bladder signals. Cancel all other commitments outside of this process as this a private training session not open to the public.

Select the right season of the year for where you live.  Choose a time of year when there is good mood weather and be ready to move into the method when your child is in a good mood time period.  If at any time, the mood gets negative, end the game.

Schedule the potty training camp ahead of time. The day before, announce to your child that tomorrow is a special day: “We are going to play a special game,” and repeat “special game” over and over during that day.

Hold a pre-game warm-up. Continue to emphasize that this is a special day and that you are going to do something special today. Share, “We are going to play the game of no-more-diapers and use the toilet.” Mention people in the family that use the toilet and tell the child they will use the potty chair like their mom, dad, brother or sister, as this will be motivational for your child. Let your child enjoy your excitement. Children get excited about what we get excited about.

Select the right uniform for the potty training game. Best is baby’s birthday suit, weather permitting, otherwise a long, loose shirt. No diapers, please. Show baby the training pants-his “special pants.” Show him or her how to put on the special pants and how to push them down and pull them up. Make it a big deal and lots of fun.

Take pictures, on your phone for instant results, and show them to your child as they wear undies, use the toilet etc. Demonstrate the push-down and pull-up maneuver in front of a mirror. All the while, keep a game-like atmosphere. If baby periodically loses interest or protests, take time out for a snack break.

Hand out the equipment. Share the Potty Fairy story with your child.  Bring out “special prizes” that the Potty Fairies will leave out randomly for the child to find when they stay dry. Like handing out party prizes, one by one unveil the tools of the trade: potty-chair, PF underwear or underwear with stickers, and reward stickers or small snack reward packages.

PRACTICE DRILLS AND TOILET TRAINING AIDS

The sitting drill. Practice sitting on the potty-chair “just like mom, dad, sister, or brother.” Put the potty-chair next to yours and sit together and chat awhile.

Instruction manuals. As you’re sitting on your respective potty- chairs, read The Potty Fairy book about potty training and other potty training books.

Conduct a “getting-on-potty-chair-and-what-to-do-there drill” so that your child knows what to do. Let him watch you or a sibling.  Demonstrate doing pee and poo or pretend while using grunting sound can give him the idea.

Potty Training Game  BEGINS

Meanwhile, you have watched your child carefully you know his/her moves as far as potty needs.  Watch for your child’s signals. At the first squat, immediately say “go potty” as you direct him toward the potty-chair, which is either on the kitchen floor or in the bathroom next to your toilet. Shadow baby all day issuing reminders of “go potty” at each about-to-go signal. Keep potty chair in a central location or close to where you are. Repetition of the association between baby’s about-to-go signals and your “go potty” cues helps baby make the connection: “When I get the urge, I go to the potty.”

REWARDS WHEN TOILET TRAINING

A reward for success.  A reward for staying dry. New “big boy” or “big girl” underwear placed on the bed at night by the potty fairies to use in the morning is exciting for a child.  Some parents like to put stickers on the potty chair when the child uses it.  The child enjoys putting the stickers on the chair to decorate it and you can count up the times the child uses the potty chair.  Random rewards during the day to celebrate staying dry is motivational. Catch them doing good!

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Don’t expect nights free of diapering. It may be several months or even years after a child is potty trained during the day.   Have the Potty Fairies leave fresh new underwear on the bed at night to change into in the morning when the child wakes up and uses the potty chair right away. Children are so excited to find the new undies in the morning and it is an excellent reminder to use the toilet right away and start the day with dry underwear.  If the underwear is new, and look wonderful to a child, they will not want to wet them or dirty them.

Not Working?

If this intensive and fast-paced game style isn’t working, don’t feel that you’re a failure as a teacher or that your child has failed. You may have a casual kid who needs a casual approach. Each child is unique and finding the right method that works for them might take a few tries. The need for diapers does pass and your child will train eventually.

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Fast Track Method of Potty Training

Adorable little boy, running in yellow oilseed rape fieldFast Track Potty Training or Toilet Training in Less Than a Day

The Fast Track Method was developed in the 1970s by two psychologists, Dr. Nathan Azrin and Dr. Richard Foxx.  The two psychologists were researching how learning could happen more rapidly in general, which was later used for potty training children.

The concepts that came from their research regarding rapid learning was used first with special needs people.  They learned that their rapid learning methods did help special needs people to learn how to self-care.  The psychologists then decided to try out the rapid learning method to toilet train children. First, they tried the strategies with special needs children and they discovered that with their method, special needs people could learn to potty train 95% of the time in an average of 3 days. They believed average children could learn even faster.

After developing the additional training procedures the psychologist tried the enhanced method with normal children and the results well exceeded their positive expectations. They found that an average child of average intelligence potty trained in 1/2 day.  Within 4 hours of training with this method, the child learned to potty on the potty chair and was motivated to do so. Results have reported success from 75%-95% of the children learning with this method.

Due to the fact that the rapid learning method worked so well, the psychologists devised additional new training procedures that emphasized language ability, imagination, imitation, verbal rehearsal and verbal instruction as well as learning by reward for normal children.

The main idea of the Fast Track Method (rapid learning) to teach potty training are:

1. teaching through pretend play (dolls) 

2. positive reinforcement (rewards)

3. practice drills

4. overcorrecting for accidents

5. Prerequisites are necessary

Azrin and Foxx emphasize the importance of timing.  In their book, Azrin and Foxx specify that kids should be 20 months or older, and they should meet several developmental criteria. In particular, kids should be able to do the following:

  • sit up by themselves
  • walk
  • stay dry for a couple of hours at a time
  • imitate
  • recognize a full bladder
  • point to body parts that you name
  • retrieve objects for you
  • follow simple instructions
  • Kids should also be able to pull a pair of loose-fitting underpants up and down by themselves

Key components of the Fast Track Method are:

  • The Potty Training experience must be pleasant for your child.
  • The Fast Track Method is only introduced to children that are ready for potty training.
  • The child has to be relaxed on the potty chair.
  • Provide the child reinforcement or reward for desired behavior
  • Imitation and social influence by the use of a doll that wets or a sibling demonstration
  • Read the book – “Toilet Training in Less Than a Day”  Dr. Azrin and Dr. Foxx.

The Fast Track concepts, ideas, and method are research-based and tested. The Potty Fairy products align with and enhance the Fast Track Method in many ways:

  • Make the potty training experience pleasant for your child by using The Potty Fairy story, song, and poem.
  • The use of imagination and play by including The Potty Fairy as part of your child’s potty training experience.
  • Bud and Blossom, The Potty Fairy helpers, are a part of the potty training process and leave underwear and food rewards for positive behavior.
  • The use of verbal language by reading the book and listening to the song and poem.
  • The fairies leave rewards when a child stays dry, reinforcing or rewarding desired behavior.
  • The Potty Fairy recommends a celebration when your child is successful with a party or special dinner with family and friends which aligns with the use of food for rewards.
  • Have your child decorate a Potty Fairy crown to encourage creativity and imaginative play.
  • Imitation of going to the bathroom can be provided by a parent, sibling or friend.  A real person role modeling the process can also be used instead of or in addition to a doll. 
  • The Potty Fairy enhances all Methods of Potty Training and aligns beautifully with the Fast Track Method.

The Fast Track Method requires preparation ahead of time for the parents to be successful.  Read the book, make sure you and your child are ready. Have your supplies and equipment ready to go before starting the process. Remember to include The Potty Fairy products to enhance this method or any method you choose to use!

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Recommended Book and Resources if attempting this method:

Azrin NH and Foxx RM. 1974. Toilet training in less than a day. New York: Pocket Books. – See more at http://www.parentingscience.com/toilet-training-techniques.html#sthash.pVpaH6Pn.dpuf

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Infant Potty Training

Infant Potty Training

Child on potty

Some parents who use the Infant Potty Training Method, avoid diapers completely by racing their baby to the nearest bathroom whenever they anticipate a poop or pee. Some parents use diapers on and off. Typical children who have been introduced to Infant Potty Training know when they have to use the toilet and get themselves there successfully by 18 months.

While Infant Potty Training seems to be a unique idea and radical idea for American parents. Infant Potty Training is not a new idea. Before 1950, most children in the United States were toilet trained by 18 months.  In other countries around the world, most babies are potty trained by 18 months. It is considered a viable method for many families around the world.  It also has value environmentally, financially, parent bonding, child independence and it is very sanitary.

Why are North America babies trained later than most children around the world today? It is speculated that the changing views of experts about toilet training, as well as the invention of disposable diapers, has pushed potty training to 2 to 3-year-olds being potty trained. Little scientific assessment has been done to evaluate the different method of potty training.

Pediatrician Benjamin Spock and other experts began advocating a more relaxed approach to toilet training in the 1950s. In the 1960s, pediatrician and parenting expert T. Berry Brazelton advocated an even gentler, more “child-centered” philosophy: He encouraged parents to allow children to follow their own timetable when it came to giving up diapers.

Brazelton’s view caught on around the same time as disposable diapers, which tend to be more comfortable for babies (they’re so absorbent that babies don’t feel wet) and easier for parents to deal with. Against this backdrop, it’s no surprise that the average age of toilet training crept up to an older age.

Are there advantages to use the Infant Potty Training Method

 

This method is not widely used in the United States today but has been used in the past in the United States up until the last 35 or so years. The Infant Potty Training Method is used widely throughout the world. Although the advantages are not based on scientific evidence, parents who believe in this method share the following advantages:

  • It promotes parent-baby bonding. Parents develop a very close and responsive relationship with their baby.
  • Parents who use the technique are also likely to embrace attachment-style parenting – an approach to childrearing that encourages practices like the family bed, prolonged breastfeeding, and carrying your baby close in a sling.
  • Advocates of this method believe that your baby will be more comfortable. Wet and dirty diapers are not comfortable for babies. Fussing babies are typically responding to a wet and dirty diaper. 
  • It allows your baby to exert his growing independence. The baby can be taught to go to the potty on their own and potty when needed. Rather than struggling with diapers.
  • It reduces diaper waste and is better for the environment. It is also helpful to a family budget.
  • It’s normal and natural. Caregivers can learn to read a baby’s signal similar to signals of when a baby is hungry or tired.
  • In the United States, proponents of the method aim to get their baby quickly to a potty. The method is considered very hygienic and sanitary.

Can The Potty Fairy Be Used with the Infant Potty Training Method? 

Although integrating The Potty Fairy into this method may not be as straightforward as when the child is older. even very young children show intense interest in books and pictures.  Infants love music and dance.  The Potty Fairy can be a part of the Infant Potty Training Method as general enrichment that you provide for your infant. Have fun with your child no matter the age when potty training. 

Please leave a comment regarding this method on AskThePottyFairy.blog  It would be so interesting to hear from you!  We are getting a nice number of followers who are interested in the blog. It would be great fun to hear your opinions and thoughts. It would benefit all followers to hear from each other.

Remember: The Potty Fairy enhances ALL Methods of Potty Training.

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